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Urgently need mantras and/or jedi mind trick self-talk to avoid being sucked into workplace drama

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Sockypuppet · 23/01/2020 08:51

Because of my background I am the kind of person to jump in and help when I see a need.

Now I am in a senior professional role. I'm not management, but I have specialist work I'm responsible for.

In my small office, management are dropping the ball. This is causing confusion and frustration among staff. They come to me for solutions because real management literally not here. I have no standing to put any solutions in place. (If I did I'd put some PIP in place).

I've just so far pleasantly said, "Don't know, ask [manager]." I've set an example to other staff by quietly getting on with my own work and not picking up slack of others' jobs. (Invoices not getting paid? Oh dear, I don't have authority to sign checks so here's the direct contact for [manager].)

I've got an appointment booked with manager to discuss.

But in the meantime staff are coming to me with conflicts like "Janey needs to do the post like this.. What about this big client with a deadline "?

The thing is, it's all way above my remit and pay grade. But I like these people and want to help.

I suspect management want me to be a sort of deputy/team lead for no payrise, which no.

But I need some stockphrases to keep from getting sucked in.

Just now I literally had a staff member come in my office like, "There's no one in reception!" I have no idea. I don't manage anyone here. I asked her to text Manager directly.

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Sockypuppet · 23/01/2020 11:26

I appreciate the advice, please keep it coming.

I don't want to be a manager. I want to keep doing my specialist work. I would only be interested in managing if they paid me like twice what I get now, seriously.

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Sockypuppet · 25/01/2020 09:02

Thanks for the advice, I had a talk with my manager and actually got a little angry, but managed to get the point across that, "When you didn't sort X and no one knew what was happening, it affected us like xyz".

To her credit she could see I was frustrated but didn't get too defensive and we ended up finding some solutions.

For some reason I am still feeling really angry about it all--like talking opened the floodgates. But of course at this point need to trust for now that she's taken it on board.

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