To be happy with very few close friends?

[malificent7]

I don't even see my close friends much. Tbh i like it this way...very little time for drama or bitching. I'd rather have a few close friends than lots of aquaintances.

Why exactly do you think that's unreasonable?

I’m the same. I only have a couple of friends (besides my DP and my family who I’m very close to). I prefer spending time alone a lot of the time and never feel lonely

Yes I totally agree op. I don’t know why a lot of people have this obsession with having a lot of friends. It should be quality over quantity.

Me too, I have 3 close friends I've had for the last 25 years. A couple of aquantences that we see every now and then as a couple. I don't see my close friends much either. I keep it that way because I like it that way. Over the years I've met new people but just never put in the effort to make them a good friend. I read threads on here sometimes about people feeling left out, and trying to persue friendships with no people and having no luck, and I think, God that's what people must think of me. Although I don't leave anyone out, I'm usually on my own 😂.

New people, not no people

Same as me OP - I am very happy :)

Quality over quantity every time! 😊

Me too. It used to worry me- mainly worried that other people would think of me as 'Billy No Mates'.
I'm early 40's now and I couldn't give a damn. I enjoy my own company and am never lonely. I honestly don't know how I could fit regular meet-ups with friends into my life. I'm busy with my family, work and gym. I meet up with some friends every now and again. It could be 6 months before we would see each other again, with texts every couple of weeks.

Yep. Rather have one or two really great, honest, trustworthy friends than a selection of folks who we barely know and have not that much in common with. We spend an afternoon each month having lunch and a catch up chat after with a couple who have been part of our lives for decades. We simply never stop laughing, sharing all sorts of ideas around our shared hobbies, and love of travelling. I like my neighbours, get on well with them, I liked most of the folks I used to work with. But these are friends I genuinely love and would give them all the help and support they ever required.

I have 3 close friends. Perfect.

Same. Quality not quantity here.

Why are you friends with these “close friends” if they have form for drama and bitching?

I have 2 good friends who I've known since primary school and I see them occasionally.

Why do you think this is unreasonable? I have a lot of really good friends and there's no drama or bitching. My friends mean the world to me and in many ways are family. I don't think having a few or many means drama. You can have a dysfunctional relationship with one friend and healthy relationships with lots. People are all different. Do what is right for you.

It’s all very well until your close friends move away. All mine have done just that in recent years and although we still see each other, it’s now very infrequent due to the distance between us. I wish I had more local friends to invite round for a quick coffee and a natter.