To be upset that Dp hasn’t told me about using viagra?

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I wasn’t snooping or suspicious of anything but was looking for a old iPhone chargers and checked Dp’s bedside drawers. Found a box Of viagra prescribed and with DP’s name on. Some have been used and I’ve no concerns that he’s cheating, so guessing he’s used them with me or possibly alone.
Thing is I can understand why he’s needing them, but he hasn’t mentioned anything to me about it and I’ve not noticed a problem in that department.

I feel quite upset, more I think because he hasn’t felt he can talk to me about it, but also a bit because he’s taking medication that I had no idea about. But equally it’s his body and he shouldn’t he have to tell me or should he?

Name change for obvious reasons and thought I’d unclicked voting very button.

YABU: to be upset and I shouldn’t say anything.
YANBU: to be upset and I should mention I’ve seen them.

You shouldn't be upset, but could mention you've seen them... tactfully.

He's probably embarrassed.

I think you are probably being unreasonable to be upset but that you should ask him. It wouldn’t occur to me to come into MN and ask if I found something like that I would say, oh what are these I didn’t realise you used Viagra, and then let him know he can talk to me and doesn’t need to keep it a secret.

It’s not a drama unless you make it into one.

I’d bring it up gently and see what he says. I imagine he’s pretty embarrassed.

I know @geekone, and I do feel very silly. I imagine he’s just embarrassed and I get that, he’s only late twenties. I don’t want to make his feel worse by saying something either.

I’d bring it up gently

Isn't that what the viagra is for ?

I was going to say to leave the poor man alone, he might be really embarrassed, but late 20s? He might be mortified.

Wait for the discussion, and concentrate on reassuring him.

Late 20's and needing viagra? Is he on antidepressants OP?

Some men in their twenties have used porn so much that they require viagra to finish. I do sex ed in schools and a few of the sexual health medical journals have mentioned needing viagra when otherwise physically healthy (not obese or using drugs) to be a sign of problems with porn use. Also, if he is using marijuana frequently or drinking a lot, try to help him cut back.

Asking for a friend obviously....but how does viagra work? Does it give a permanent erection over a period of hours or does it just increase libido and make men with ED more likely to get an erection when in the mood?

Sounds like he’s embarrassed. YABU that your upset over it though. If doesn’t effect you after all, it effects him.

He's not on antidepressants no. He had a illness and I know it was mentioned that he may have some problems in that department, more psychological than physical. The thing is he's talked all about that with me and so I can't help but feel a bit upset that he wouldn't tell me this.
And I've asked and he said everything was fine. Our sex life as been normal, no problems that I've noticed although we've a young baby so opportunities aren't that often.

I'm not really sure myself @housinghelp101. I think you take them but still need to be turned on to get hard, but that's from a quick google search. Things have been normal in that we've been doing what we normally do in that regards.

Lots of young men use viagra recreationally - especially if they use recreational drugs like cocaine. Performance anxiety is really common. Erectile concerns can also be stress related. It sounds though like he went to his GP rather than buy on line. You don't need a prescription any more.

If you two don't party ever, then I would be really tactful is bringing it up with him. It can be quite noticable if a partner has taken a Viagra- they can get really flushed and sweaty- more than normal lol

Yes, he definitely doesn't do recreational drugs @Hobbesmanc.
It's a prescription too, he's not bought it online.
I haven't noticed him seeming any different at all.
Would they be something you'd use every time? Because we are still reasonably spontaneous where the children allow. And I've just looked and they were prescribed before Christmas and only 6 have been used. We've definitely had sex more than that.

I'm going to have to just ask him, because it's going to niggle me. And it's not as if he was particularly hiding them, they're in his top drawer, but it's not as if I don't occasionally go in his drawers if I'm looking for something like today.

These are prescribed @Redannie118. They have the label on and there's a repeat prescription note in the bag with the unopened boxes.

Redannie118 is right. There's absolutely no need to visit the GP and get a prescription.

Therefore, I'd say he does have erectile problems that he's been worried enough about to visit the doctor.

Was there absolutely no sign he was having issues performing? Is it over really quick. Some men use it to prolong the sex others recreationally. At least he didn't buy it online. Ask him it is the only way.
I'd be surprised too if I'd no idea he had sexual issues performing.

That's what I thought @WorraLiberty. Which is why I feel bad that he hasn't spoken to me about it and I guess that I haven't noticed anything.

My ex took viagra recreationally before I found it. In his case the boner wouldn't pissed off.
I read young men are dabbling in viagra for bulls. Some young chap was hospitalised after a 3 day boner.

No @EmeraldShamrock. I haven't noticed anything. But I've also not noticed any change since he must have started taking them. Our youngest is only a few months old though.

It's sometimes a blood flow problem. Some men can get an erection but without Viagra, they can't keep it for long.