Im about to start the wheels in motion on seperation. Even two of my three kids now want me to move out with them.. Their Dad has anger issues. How do I logistically do this safely?

[BFrances]

We have been under the same roof but not together for four years. My kids have now finally had enough of his control and anger too. How should I announce the separation and keep us all safe from his outrage? Need some guidance. My heads just in panic mode. Thanks x

I have no answers but couldn't leave you with no replies.. I would move this to relationship as there are many threads with other women going through this..read sulking husband thread..Jamais has had lots of help with leaving her H and help with how to help her DCs..
I wish you all the luck and hope it turns out alright for you and your DCs

Relationships board. There is an info box at the top with links to organisations to help.

Women's Aid 0808 2000 247

Leave when he's not there.

He's an abuser. He does not have "anger issues" - the "anger" is manufactured to control you.

This is domestic abuse.

I second Women's Aid as a starting point.
Before you leave, make sure you have copies of all relevant paperwork and locked down any personal financial accounts.
Get someone to be with you if there is even the slightest chance he may get violent.

Good luck.