DH Snoring!!

[BabyBunnyMama]

This is all probably going to sound very dramatic but everything does at almost 2:30am.

My husband snores like nothing I've ever heard before! Since having our DD it's became a real issue where I am unable to sleep properly because of it (I am more sensitive to sounds as I'm listening out for her?) and it's at the point that I am losing a lot of sleep because of it and making me feel pretty run down during the day sometimes.

I started wearing earplugs most nights a few months ago and that's helped, but some nights (like tonight) even they won't drown out the sound enough for me to get back to sleep.

I don't know what to do! I know it's not his fault, I've told him to go see a Dr but even then I don't have a lot of hope it's something that can be fixed? A spare bed isn't an option and also we're going on holiday in a few months and DD is such a light sleeper I have no idea how she's going to get any sleep sharing a room with us.

It's just so frustrating. DD is only 9 months and sleeping through the night but I still rarely have a night where I'm not disturbed. I don't think I've had a proper nights sleep since before she was born and his snoring didn't bother me. Literally feel like it's ruining my life 😭

Sorry for the long post and the dramatics, I'll get over it in the morning but just sooooo frustrated at the minute.

My partner wears these little plastic clips in his nose. Cost pennies and lots of different sizes, can't feel them when attached and stopped me LTBS. Amazon have them.

My DH has recently started snoring. Fabulous.

He also sleep walks / has night terrors. It got to the point once where I was afraid to be in the bed with him as he’d lashed out and hit me a couple of times, and he’d also thought I was fitting but he was actually shaking me really hard... it’s unbearable to live with and now he snores too. Such a delight!!

Definitely sounds like sleep apnoea! Lying on the back makes it worse, get a sleep study and hopefully you’ll both feel better!

I feel your pain my husband snores really loudly, he also clicks his teeth together and uses my head as a resting post for his elbow when he's asleep (not envy) he bought one of those pillows that is meant to stop snoring and it has helped abit. I tend to just give him a shove until he rolls over and stops snoring. I know it's not done on purpose but I'm a light sleeper and it's rage inducing when the person next to you is snoring, and all you want to do is sleep.

I find a co-operative snoring person will respond if you say "roll over darling"

Your experience may vary.

Is there an app you can download to record him so you can objectively quantify the level and frequency of the noise? I.e. "he snored from 1am to 5 am at 30 decibels" or whatever so it's not just you being "a nag". If there's not such an app there should be ....

I googled "snore app" - there's loads of them! I'd download one OP to back you up

Last night I could have murdered my husband! I'd gone to bed and had fallen asleep, wearing earplugs, before he came up. His snoring woke me up so I put headphones on, on top of the earplugs, connected them to my phone and played white noise with the volume up as high as it would go and I could still hear the bloody snoring! I ended up on the settee again but it creates a viscous circle because a crap night's sleep on the settee means I sleep through the day and then struggle to sleep overnight. I can't help but feel angry with him for waking me up and resentful because he gets the full night in a nice, warm, cosy bed and I'm banished to what feels like a park bench in the coldest room of the house. At the moment we're taking it almost in turns though, thankfully, because I kicked up a fuss about spending most nights downstairs.

Oh and it doesn't matter whether he's on his back or his side either. He's tried propping himself up, he's tried snore strips, he's stopped taking his painkillers before bed... nothing works. He's overweight and is trying to lose the weight but that's a slow process. This level of snoring is new though. I don't know if it's just a coincidence or not but he's only recently started taking statins: does anyone know if that would cause or worsen snoring?

Sympathies all. I am a light sleeper & DH snores like an asthmatic warthog, regardless of position. He has fallen asleep on the sofa, sat up, & still snored so loud he drowned out the tv. Some nights I have resorted to the sofa at 3am, much to the chagrin of ddog! At least sofa is comfy 😊

@CoffeeBeansGalore My DH is exactly the same! He will roll over if I tell him too but it doesn't make any difference. He also snores sitting upright on the sofa too. Ah it's so annoying isn't it!

Feel your pain Baby.

My ex snored something terrible and eventually I got him to see a dr and after a sleep study he was diagnosed with sleep aponea and got a cpap machine. Marriage didn't work out but after years of moving to sofa etc, I managed to sleep a full night.

Fast forward to a new relationship. Dear lawd he snores even worse than ex did. But i recognised the aponea symptoms straight away and he also went for a sleep study. His recording was even worse, think he stops breathing every 5 times in a minute or something like that. Anyway he too is now getting a machine.

But the difference here is that ex refused to do anything about it until i practically said I'm moving out to get some sleep. I know exactly how you felt at 2am. I would cry out of sheer frustration at not being able to sleep yet was so tired.

DP as soon as we had the discussion and he found me on the sofa or in with one of the kids in the morning, he booked himself to the dr and got it sorted out.

I am of the opinion that if your partner is battling, then you do what you need to do to help. I know noone snores on purpose, but there are things that help and he does need to do whatever he can so that you can also sleep as well as he does.