AIBU to enjoy spending money?

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I've read back over what I wrote and want to start by saying that I am not being goady, and I know I sound materialistic. There is more to my life than shopping, but I am just so fed up.

My DSis keeps making snide comments about my family's spending habits. She says we are frivolous, we should be saving money, we could buy a second house I don't want to do this and she doesn't know how I could be so stupid when we both came out of the same womb I personally think she's tight but that is neither here nor there. She's NOT poor herself, so this is not about that, although she is a bit obsessed with money and will gleefully send me links to things which are cheaper than what I paid.

DH and I have good jobs. We commute into London and I spend 3 hours a day on travel. We have 1-2 holidays per year, and a couple of city breaks in the UK as we are trying to see more of this country. We are not struggling financially and have a decent amount in savings (enough to live off for 3 months, although DS doesn't know this).

If I see something I want, I like being able to just buy it. I don't like waiting for sales or hunting around on eBay for the sake of a few £s. I am a size 12 so I find that by the time things are on sale only sizes 8 or 16+ are left. I would rather buy something that I love and appreciate it than wait and potentially miss out.

I enjoy the convenience of going to a gym which is a 5 minute walk from my house, and I don't want to get a bus or walk 30 minutes to a cheaper gym. That time is important to me and I know I will get stressed with 'wasting' time and just talk myself out of going to the gym.

I like being able to pay for things to make my life easier. AIBU?

Hmmm, what would you all suggest to have in savings if 3 months of spending isn't enough? I'm not keen to have years and years worth squirrelled away as PP.

Of course YANBU. For a start, it’s your money to do as you see fit with, and it’s absolutely none of her business.
We pay slightly more to go to a gym walking distance away, because we are fairly time poor and wouldn’t go if it was further away.
If I want a particular item of clothing and can afford it, I won’t wait a few months to buy it in the sale, because a) that might not happen anyway and b) if I’m buying a new item of clothing it’s usually because I need it at that particular time.
I hate it when people comment on my spending habits. I bought DD2 a new pair of school shoes last week (in the sale actually!) as she’d had a growth spurt, and got a lecture from one of her friend’s mums as apparently I should have bought 1/2 sizes too big when I bought her last pair in August.

Commenting on people's spending is bad manners and yanbu to be annoyed. Constant commenting and questions are intrusive and overbearing, so yanbu to feel uncomfortable and even upset. Telling you you should buy a second house is going way, way too far.
It would be a good idea to use some of the methods and answers suggested here to shield yourself from your sister's attacks --- because that's what they sound like to me.
Ignore posters behaving like your sister and telling you to save more. You don't need to justify your spending to your sister, let alone strangers on the internet.
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