AIBU - is this weird?

[Changingforthisnow]

So I previous posted about how my MIL hosts about 25 for christmas and because she is getting tired of it, there are now hints we should take over (tho we live about six hours away from everyone so they would all have to stay too as they would never stay in a hotel as that would cost money).

Anyway, my SIL who does live near us (but wouldn't have the space for the above - and would be too tight to do it anyway) is a key holder for the house alarm as she is close enough at the moment. It came up in conversation today to which she expressed surprise that that was the reason why we had given it to her (we do not have a key for her place) as she thought it was more for if we wanted something "doing" if we were away. When i said no it was for emergencies so was she happy to do it as we were happy that she had it in this case (tho we would reassess if they moved away which they may be doing). Anyway, she read the message and didn't reply which to me is a little rude and implies she is not happy but leaving it all a bit unfinished. AIBU or would you think that? Or do i need a head wobble?

So don't pick the obnoxious boundary over stepper to be your key holder!

Not tonight princess. Been one of those days mind.

Thanks fanniesyeraunt. That’s where I am coming from. I guess I do see it as number 3.

Well you're right on one thing op, it is weird,,🤣

Seriously can't you give the key to a neighbour? For emergencies that's usually the best way as they are on hand and may need to get into the property.

How far away does she live that you're expecting her to drive over when the alarm goes off?

You now think she wants to sneak into your house when you're not there?

Ahhh I get it now so erase everything christmassy. Your beef is you gave sil your key to attend alarm when it goes off anytime ( I thought you meant at Christmas when you are at mils) you only want her to attend alarm and not just go in and look through your knicker drawer. Ok, give the key to someone else, someone who doesn't root. Tbh most people have a gawp.

You don't trust your sister-in-law, yet you gave her a key to your home.

Ok.

I'm still not sure I understand.

If you trust your SIL, leave her with your key. If you don't, take your key back.

Unless there's something else you're getting at...?

No. That’s all it is kaldefotter. I guess I was just wondering if given the history I am I being too sensitive or if my feelings were justified. Instead I just confused you all. Sorry.

Ok, I've read the OP several times now and my brain still can't connect the m.i.l Xmas dinner and s.i.l being a key holder.
If you're worried OP then take the key off her and give it to a trusted neighbour instead.

What history?

So he threw a glass of red wine at the wall and you shouted at him because he fancies Sharon, is that right?

No worries, OP. You have every right to feel that your home is private and that nobody's invading your privacy. But if you're away, it can be reassuring to know that someone (trustworthy!) has a key.

I don't think there's enough to go on about what you should do regarding your key. It seems you've had a conversation by text or messenger or similar. She's not responded to your latest message, so you're second-guessing her thinking.

It would seem sensible to chat with her in person. Gauge from that conversation whether she respects that she's an emergency key holder only, or whether she might have a nosey round while you're away. Make a decision on your key from that.

The only thing that's weird as fuck is your reasoning. Xmas dinner, a key and not replying to a text really don't warrant this depth of thought.

I don’t think it’s odd that she hasn’t replied and from what you’ve put I can’t see why she would be offended to know she is your emergency back up.

That bloody Sharon, a right bother causer that one @FlaskMaster 😂