CF neighbour thread

[PrincessHoneysuckle]

Recently got some security lights for our back garden,had them up for a few weeks.Ndn has just messaged me asking where I got them from (Amazon).She then asked if I can order her some and she'll bring me cash round and would dh mind fitting them 😂😂

I don't see any cheeky fuckery here. If DH is too busy, just send her a link to the item and say so.

@lifeisgood you must be a pushover in life if you think it was a reasonable request from her

Why would you agree to order them for her? Just send her the link.

You should have just texted back “No thanks”

Tell her no, wtf? Weird.

It depends how she asked. If she said something along the lines of, “do you think your husband would mind helping me out and putting them up, as I haven’t a clue?” and if she’s the kind of neighbour who would help you out or do a favour in return, then I wouldn’t mind, as I’m very handy with things like that. My neighbour has helped me with a couple of things, but I look after his cat for him, so we help each other.

That’s different from “could you order them and ask your husband to put them up for me?” from someone who would have no interest in returning the favour.

If she messaged, why didn't you just send her the Amazon Link?

Get the money before you place the order.

As regards your Dh installing them, I wouldn't be in agreement unless he's an electrician. It's fine to do it at home, but suppose he blew a fuse, or caused other electrical damage, where would that leave him? She'd probably charge for fixing it.

Of course if they are battery operated then that's different.

I find this a bit weird to be honest. She has asked for some help, is that not OK? My neighbours and I help eachother out with things all the time. I don't know why her husband can't do it but presuming she knows your husband can, that's why she's asked.

I would also echo the concern about your dh's liability if there's a problem with wiring the lights into their electricity supply. Your neighbour needs to employ a qualified electrician who'll be insured.

I’m very wary of people who ask for favours. With some people, it’s fine, just a one-off or very occasional thing when they’re in a bind. With others, that first favour sets a precedent and they just keep demanding until you either snap or move away.

I’ve met a few too many of the latter type in my life, and have gone from being a people-pleaser to a bit of a curmudgeon over the years. So OP, YANBU in my opinion. I think you’re being quite generous placing the order for her.

It depends on how hard they are to fit and if they're wired. I wouldn't mind getting the lights for our neighbours, nor DH putting them up (as long as he wasn't going into the mains, outside electrics need to be on their own trip switch), but only if it was a max 20 min job.

She’s asking too much too suddenly. I would decline, otherwise this will be the first of many requests.