Birthday

[nandaandm]

A bit of a long one.
I'm a step daughter, my DD and his wife have been married for 25 yrs. My Stepmum has a son who has 2 children. My DD and my DN'S spend every Saturday together, and my eldest DN is in the same class as my DD. We are close. It was my youngest DN birthday today. So my SIL , my Two DN's and my SM have all gone out on a day out without my DD. They invited my DD to breakfast but were then going out together. We didn't go for breakfast . So AIBU to think this was a bit shitty?

It's taken me quite a while to try and decipher your post, but have I got it right that your SiL took her dds and their Grandmother out somewhere for the day when it was one of her dds' birthdays ?

If I've got it right, then YABU - there is nothing shitty about taking your own family out somewhere without starting to invite extra people

Diagram?

Just use whole words if you're not going to use the traditional acronyms...

Yabu, they are entitled to spend time with their grandmother without your dd there. There is a difference between not including and excluding, it's fine to not include all the time

Where do they spend every Saturday together? Does SM have all three kids every Saturday?

It’s taking me too long to decipher what you’re on about so I gave up.

@thankgoodness same... Too many random letters...

If your AIBU is about a mother taking her own children out for the day, along with her biological mother then you are definitely being unreasonable though...

Or rather in this case a father... I think... Still confused even when reading and rereading...

@Retroflex it’s too bloody early in the morning to decipher made up acronyms!!
What I can make out is that she wants free babysitters on a Saturday and she didn’t get that this weekend.

I'm sitting here at 4am (pain induced insomnia), totally confused, but yes, I believe you are correct @thankgoodness1

Not that difficult - OP’s stepbrother’s children and his wife (the SIL).

OP - i don’t think this was poor behaviour by your SIL, unless your dd was previously led to believe she would be included? If it was just because it is Saturday, surely it was up to you to manage her expectations in advance (ie “DD, it’s DNiece/Nephew’s birthday next Saturday so they will be out for the day with their mum. How about we go to soft play that day instead?”)

@Retroflex I hope you’re feeling better soon

With this update from @RubaiyatOfAnyone who is obviously much more alert than me at stupid o clock!!..I’d say yes, it is a bit shitty but the real question is does your step mum look after your children without you on a Saturday as this is an important bit of information.

Thanks, it's not uncommon, but at night when the house is silent trying hard to ignore husbands snoring I think about all the things I want to do in the house...
And about the delicious creamy garlic tuscan dinner I once made, and how that might be nice for tomorrow...

Are you me?
It’s amazing how my husband can sleep right through the night. If he has the cheek to ever claim he was awake during the night I’m quick to correct him. He says “how do you
know?!?” and I say “because I was awake listening to the damn snoring!!” He currently sounds like an old, creaking castle door slowly opening!
Insomnia sucks.

Wait what the fuck

OP has used DD instead of DF.

She's upset that her stepmother, sister in law (stepbrothers wife) and nieces have gone out for the day without her father. He was invited to breakfast though.

OP was your father upset by this or are you being offended on his behalf?

GiveHerHell, nah, the DD is the OP's daughter otherwise this is a bit weird:

my eldest DN is in the same class as my DD

@RadishesAndLentils oh yeah, I was confused by , my DD and his wife have been married for 25 yrs.

So instead then her DD got invited for breakfast but not the day out and that's why she's upset?

Well OP they didn't need to invite her for breakfast and they did.
Would you have been upset if they'd have invited her for tea after the day out?