I’ve been with my partner for two years and I’d say we’re serious.
As we’re in a partnership we help each other out if need be. If one of us is skint we’re both skint. Neither of us will let the other go hungry but we don’t share accounts etc.
Something my mum said the other day is that love/liking the other isn’t always enough in a partnership but general outlook is. We’re both career driven and while we don’t have kids we’ve got similar opinions on how we plan to raise them etc. Same about marriage.
However, my partner has completely different outlook on money. He likes designer clothes, nice cars and generally keeping up with the Jones’s. I’m very much the opposite. If something does the job well I have no interest of upgrading I.e. mobile, car, home etc. Same with what’s the point in first class when economy gets me to the same location at the same time.
My other half lost his job unexpectedly 6 months ago and has struggled since surviving on temp/0 hour contracts but finally got himself a similar role than before. In this time he lost his car, had to borrow money from myself/others (hated having to swallow his pride), and all of his (low wages) and his savings was spent having to pay loans. Once he’s paid back all money owed he’s going to get himself a very fancy lease car. It’s none of my business but it makes me feel sick. Maybe because I grew up during the recession my outlook is very different. If he was a millionaire, sure, get a fancy car as money can’t be taken into the next world.
This isn’t an AIBU for being in his business but more of is it important to have a shared outlook on how to spend money when in a relationship?