I love my dh, I genuinely really do and do not want us to split, but he really drives me potty. We’ve been together for 15 years and in that time we have both changed so much and I suppose become much more lazy about appreciating each other. However I’m at the stage now where I really want an easy relaxed life, we have 3 dc- one with sn, I work and am currently studying and taking exams as well so I am usually so drained by the end of every day that I just want to change into my pjs and read a good book. My ideal weekend consists of mooching around doing some errands, meeting friends for coffee and maybe a lunch or dinner out. Dh however is just on a whole different road to me, he has gone from being a young(ish) man with loads of energy and plenty of banter to a modern day Victor Meldrew. He is always grumpy, complaining about one thing or another and nagging at the kids for minor infractions which I always end up being pulled into. He then wants to spend the weekends doing his hobby or meeting friends in the pub (I am invited to these but it’s just not my idea of fun) I just feel like we have nothing in common anymore and neither of us are sufficiently motivated to find anything.
I think ultimately we are heading towards separation anyway so why not live apart and see if that helps? We could just about afford a small place and the kids could have so where to stay when with him, but I’m unsure how things like custody and finances should/would be handled in the interim? I would like to have these things thought out before I speak to him but again I’m just not sure if iabu?