ok, background is we live in sicily (DH is italian) and BIL lives in his own house behind us. We have never gotten on. I find him extremly childish, argumentative and a liar. I'm not the only one who doesn't get on with him, many people don't like him, even DH has said if it wasn't his brother he would have nothing to do with him. MIL moved to be with us all (she lived in the north of italy) at xmas and moved in with BIL. She comes round here a lot and since we came back from uk holiday this summer spends most of her days here. She doesn't go out, prefers staying at home watching sky and reading her bible. She's a bit batty but I adore her, she doesn't intefere is kind, affectionate, I know I'm lucky to have her. Kids adore her too, she's a perfect nanna. Its summer here and we've been spending a lot of time at the beach especially this week as dh is back in work and as he works from home I get the kids up and take them to the beach so he can work in peace. I leave the house tidy, beds made, pots washed etc etc but mother in law often comes round and will hang washing out, sweep floors. I never ask her to do anything, for me should could sit and watch telly all day but always thank her and really do appreciate what she does. Once the kids are back in nursery things will get back to normal (ie will give house good spring clean)anyway ......this lunch time come home and mil has given the house a good sweep through, washed floors, tidied up outside etc, for which I was very grateful for. We're sat having kunch and BIL walks pass making comments about how we treat his mum like a slave, only using her for looking after the kids, to clean house etc. This isn't the first time he's said this and he's really peeved me off. He treats his mum like dirt, here she's treated with love and respect. I've just about had enough of him. DH says nothing, he's always defending him, on the odd occassion they have fallen out he's soon forgetting all about it. I don't want him to fall out with his brother but maybe stand up for me once in a while would be nice. I'm so angry and frustrated. Sorry if this is a huge rant !!