So iv been with my OH for 6 years, I have 2 kids from my previous relationship and him 4 from 3 previous. 1 does not talk to him at all, 1 used to contact him all the time (used to be a taxi driver) and she would call at all hours to get a lift, confronted him about this and now she doesn't contact him unless it's to do with their daughter, the 3rd on the other hand is a completely different kettle of fish.
We split for 5 month around 3 years ago and he slept with someone else (we were separated so don't care that much) although all arrows point to the 3rd mum, but he won't tell me who, we have since got back together and have a 2yo together. Since we got back together this 3rd baby mama is in contact with him constantly.
To be fair she does always make it look as though its to do with their boys but in a sense it's not really because it's calls n texts about the stupidest of stuff, she txts when we are about to have sex (midnight) and all other times and he thinks I still want to be intimate after it, he talks about her almost every day even after countless arguments about my feelings.
Before anyone says I know his kids come first 100% and so they should coz mine do too, but he doesn't want to start an argument with her incase she stops him seeing the boys which I fully understand, but where does my feelings come into this?
When it comes to childcare arrangements (we don't live together) I always have to wait and see what she wants first and what times are suitable for her, I'm writing this and it sounds petty but I wish I had all day to write what's going on. His ex even had a picture of me and my Ohs son in a frame in her bedroom saying she thought it was her son ( he looks like me).
I'm lost on a solution I love him but this with his ex is making our relationship strained and no matter how many times I mention it I'm always in the wrong. Do yous think I'm over reacting? I can provide more in depth details if they are needed for your opinion. Thanks for reading me novel x