Irrationally disliking a name because of a person with that name (LIGHTHEARTED)

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Hi all,

This is lighthearted. TTC at the moment and i was thinking about names i dislike randomly. i realised i really hate a name for no other reason than because of a person with it, theres nothing wrong with the actual name either . I was seeing someone a few years ago and i got THE ICK (great previous thread on this a couple of weeks ago!) i now cannot even stand his name . he never did anything wrong, nice guy and i never disliked the name before that, but now i think its awful, just think yuccck.

My DM has always said she doesnt like my middle name. She knew a girl with the name when she was younger who wasnt very nice at school, so reminds her of her. (She said she only gave me it as it goes really well with my first name and she chose my first name and my dad chose second). Even though its very common, anyone she meets with this as their first name reminds her of this girl.

So AIBU for irrationally disliking a name just because of a person with it, or does anyone else have any really random reasons for hating a name? maybe im just a weirdo?

Ruby was dd1's bully at primary school, so it puts me off the name

I don’t think these kinds of threads tend to go well, someone invariably gets the hump..

But to contribute, yes, there are definitely names I avoided due to associations with real people. I remember hearing that you don’t realise how many people you dislike till you start looking for baby names!

I've been teaching Primary for over 30 years and can tell you that you are definitely NBU!

A kid called Bradley split my head open as a kid. So I never liked it.

I remember hearing that you don’t realise how many people you dislike till you start looking for baby names!
^ absolutely this.
Really stupid reasons aswell. For example 'oh there was a kid in my class with that name and they were a brat'

Me too TheSquitz

There were names I liked, but couldn’t possibly have used, because of their association with a child or children I taught

My son got his name partly because I taught a lovely boy with that name. My daughter’s name was unusual at the time, became very popular later and is still around. It has no negative associations for me.

Yes I aboustly hate a name. Because this woman was awful to.me after I was hit by a car she got between me and my ex. Obviously he's a little to blame to. But I can't help but get this horrid feeling everytime I hear it. Makes me so angry and upset. Dumb really.

Yep, I feel this way about Cheryl and Jennifer as I knew horrible people in school with those names. No offence to all the perfectly nice Cheryls and Jennifers out there.

The worst is when you have a favourite name and then meet an awful person with it (in my case a nasty, bullying boss). Ruins it completely.

I definitely associate names with some unpleasant people I have known. Ella was a girl who bullied my DD at school, in year 8, for being gay and wrote 'lesbian' on her forehead in permanent marker. Ella has since come out as gay herself and she and DD have an uneasy friendship. Still loathe her and loathe the name. Apologies to all the lovely, sweet, kind, friendly Ellas out there.

I hope nobody gets upset or annoyed @Cornettoninja, people don't have to put the actual names if they don't want to, more the reasons, especially if ridiculous or funny! The ones put about bullying are awful and understandable I think. Mine was random, the poor bloke didn't do anything, I got the ick and even his name is awful to me now

Yep, as a teacher there are plenty of names I wouldn't choose for my own children due to having less-than-fond memories, or even the lovely kids, actually! We chose something completely separate for DS.

Yes, you never realise how many people you dislike until you have to name your child.

I always had a few names picked out that I liked the sound of for my DC but as I have grown up and other friends have used them or they have been names of family members i have had to re-think.

Name association is a weird thing. When I was at school there was only one overweight child in my year. Her name was Laura so in my mind Lauras are fat. It doesn't matter how many slim Lauras I've met since the image the name conjures up is fat.

Also Keirons all have red hair and Josephs are badly behaved brats.

I detest the name Kerry because of a horrible bullying girl at high school. I dislike the name Dominic because of an unpleasant, badly behaved boy in our village when I was a child.

Before I had Dd2 there was a girls name I loved.
When my mum was in a care home one of her carers had this name.
I absolutely hated her, she was vile to the residents.
When Dd2 was born, DH suggested this name. No way was that happening all I could think about was her.

Yes! I dislike some names just because of their sounds. Also some names have had associations so I think I have not liked the name holders as much. Maybe it's some primal reason.

WeeSleekitTimerousMoosey Very sadly, most classes will have many more fat children in, these days. Due to not enough exercise and fatty, sugary foods.

I dont like the names Karen and Sonia because of vicious little bullies in school but I now work with 2 ladies with these names who are lovely. Still got the negative association though to the extent I really thought I d have a hard time working closely with Karen as HOY. Not true but there s still 15 year old me saying Karen is a horrible name