AIBU not to unlock tablet / remove parent controls

[Mamalicious16]

Ex just messaged asking me to remove parental controls on DD new tablet he bought her for Christmas. She's 6. The last tablet he bought her disappeared / broke ( i suspect he gave it to her older brother when he smashed it as ex has form for doing this sort of thing.). Also note the time- she's 6. She should be in bed. She was tired when he picked her up earlier. I suspect either ex / his new wife / or older DC want to use the tablet. But it was DD Christmas present FFS. AiBU not to unlock it / remove password. NB ive already downloaded her favourite apps eg Peppa Pig etc.

Say sorry no she is in bed

You're definitely not being unreasonable! If he wants a tablet he should buy one himself, not steal your child's!

And a 6 year old should not be on a tablet at this time of night anyway! Nor would a 6 year old have any reason to not have parental controls on their device!

Don't message until morning - you don't have to respond at all

If you do choose to respond tomorrow say "no, she doesn't need that"

Woke up this morning to find Big Farm and Candy Crush installed .......

Cheeky fucker. Delete any apps not for your daughter and change settings so nothing can be downloaded without your permissions in future.

Deleted apps. Can't stop apps being downloaded again. as they don't have age restrictions. Can't stop him from downloading apps. He downloaded booking.com FFS!!! He's sent me a message saying DD cant play on Peppa pig app as it's stopped working. I told h perhaps she could try playing on booking.com! Petty I know but I'm SO annoyed. Have also set screen time for 3 hours.........

3 hours is a lot of screen time for a 6 year old. Perhaps you could limit it to 20-30 minutes per session?

I don’t see what your problem is with him
using it? He bought it for her, not you! i can
understand why he’s pissed off that you’ve put controls on it that he can’t override, when he bought it & is using it at his house

Candy crush & bookings.com - it’s hardly porn & violent games is it?

I can understand why you’d put parental controls on it, but to control that when HE wants to use it is - that’s not on.

I think you sound like you are being confrontational and petty. He bought the tablet for her so I don't think he is being unreasonable in wanting to use it.

I think it should have parental controls put on it. Obviously.

What's the problem with him using it when he bought it? So he should buy another one for his own use? That's a bit wasteful surely?

Because its HER Christmas present! Oh never mind........

I think with most tablets you can put a block on downloading anything without permission.

Because its HER Christmas present! Oh never mind........

Oh honestly OP, get a grip. You didn't buy the tablet so why do you get to dictate how it's used?!

DH bought me a coffee machine as one of my Christmas presents because I'd asked for one. I'm pretty sure - shock horror - he sometimes uses it to make coffee for himself too! Maybe he should buy a second machine, using your logic?

Think about it. And learn to pick your battles where they actually matter...

My Dd's phone needs permission from my phone to download any apps at all, can you get similar?

He bought it! Yes its hers but why shouldn't he use it when she's in bed? This is just petty power play.

As he bought it I think he is NBU to use it with care when DD is asleep and download reasonable apps, e.g. booking.com .

VU to take off parental controls, though.