... for collecting my distressed DD from the in-laws last night when she decided she didn't want to sleep there?

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Because the in-laws have got the hump . They think I am too soft with her and was pandering to her whims.

Both DDs (6.5) have stayed overnight with them several times over the last few years, without any bother mostly. However, DD2 has had a very gurgly stomach this week and is terrified of being sick (she has a bit of a sick phobia). She told me on the 'phone last night that she was very worried about being sick at nana's and could I come and get her. I tried to reassure her that she wouldn't be sick, then I said no problem, I'll be over asap.

I feel strongly that I want both of my DDs to know that wherever they are, whatever they are doing, if they are not happy and need to come home I will do my best to bring them home. They are just 6 years old .

It's upset me that the in-laws can't understand this. DH agrees with me, thankfully.

Of course you'd go and fetch her!

dd1 has done this quite a few times, is all excited about stopping at grandmas but then at bedtime wants to comes home to her own bed & toys,

I always go straight around and bring her home, but last time she stayed the night without a fuss but I want her to know that if she wants to come home, I'll go a fetch her.

Unreasonable in-laws me thinks

oh we have done this before

planned a night out, got a phone call from MIL "ooooooh they won't settle"

at about 7.11pm iirc

dh went to get them (or it could have just been dd1 at the time, can't recall!)

I think as a parent you know if they are trying it on or not, go with your instinct, ignore anyone else

yanbu. They feel slighted probably by you and dd. Ignore I think.

I think it is very important for them to trust that you will come and get them if they ask..

yaNbu..

glad your DH agrees with you.

Maybe the GP just took it too personally and were upset on missing out on time with your DD.

i used to do this alot when i was little. my mum always had to collect me from sleepovers at 12 at night.

You did the right thing. I wish my parents had collected me when I was sleeping at my grandparents but did not want to.

You sound like a really good and lovely mother.

Your grandparents are probably just feeling slightly miffed that she does not want to stay there. They have probably been looking forward to her staying the night.

I understand that the grandparents may feel like they're missing out but you had to do what was best for your DD!

Don't feel bad, it's a good thing that DD feels confident that you're there for her. Sounds like you have a solid relationship

Thanks for all your replies. I suppose the in-laws were a bit disppointed and possibly hurt that they wouldn't stay. They don't realise what a big thing she has about being sick, even though I have told them.

Just as well we weren't out at the pub when she rang!! We were contemplating it, seeing as we were child-free.

It was completely your decision and I would have done exactly the same in your shoes.

You know your dc better than anyone else. As I often have to say to my mother "my children, my rules, my decisions"....