My mum went into hospital as a planned admission, in autumn last year for:-
Medication review
Tests into breathlessness
Physio
Despite admission being arranged by GP, we were told she HAD to go through A&E. She was there around 6 hours and was then placed on a small ward. Whilst in A&E, the Doctor who admitted/examined her talked about end of life and resuscitation. This is standard practice. The Dr. went on and on about what MIGHT occur in the event of resuscitation ie, stroke, fractured bones, brain damage, damage to internal organs etc. My mum insisted that, knowing all this, SHE STILL WANTED TO BE RESUSCITATED. The Dr. continued to push her message and eventually, I asked the Dr. to cease as I felt she was trying to persuade my mum into agreeing to not being resuscitated.
My mum was 79, lived alone, was fully independent and still drove. Her home had two separate staircases and her bedroom was on the top floor. Two days before being admitted, she was shopping in John Lewis for a birthday gift for me and we joked that I hoped it was a suitably expensive and frivolous gift! Remember, she’d gone into hospital for tests. Arranged by her GP. She wasn’t expecting to die. She was put on a ward with MRSA and Norovirus. Ten days later she had got an infection, deteriorated and died.
We requested the medical/nursing care notes as we were not happy with her care. When they arrived, I was really shocked to read the A&E notes in which the admitting Dr stated that both Mrs X and her Next of Kin (daughter) agreed NOT TO RESUSCITATE. I’m fucking furious. I never said that/signed to that. My mother never said that/signed to that. Remember, she was in for tests and physio. She NEVER expected to die. Neither did the family.
AIBU here? Did this Doctor just decide to play God? I remember, when the examination was over, my mum jokingly said “remember Dr, I want anything and everything doing to keep me alive!”
Can a Dr just decide to do this? How does she sleep at night? Ought my Mum/I have been asked to SIGN something to say we agree/disagree?
What would YOU do?