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To be struggling to budget my food shopping

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Toomuchtooyoung01 · 17/01/2020 09:23

We are spending a crazy amount on food shopping each week and its not sustainable. We don't eat anything extravagant, are both teetotal at home so not spending anything on alcohol, toiletries wise we only buy the absolute necessary basics (shampoo/conditioner, shower gel, handwash etc) so its not like I'm filling the trolley with a £10 pot of this or a £10 tube of that, its really frustrating as we easily spend £150-£170 a week and I feel for that money we should either have alot more than we do or we should be spending alot less for the very normal, non flashy food/products etc we are buying.
The only brands we buy are Pampers nappies (large pack a week) and every few weeks I'll stock up on Childs Farm bubble bath etc when its on special offer! All food is own brand.
Breakfast is cereal or toast with fruit sometimes pancakes or brioche for DD or sometimes mini bacon sandwich. Usual meals are a roast, sausages with veg and mash, fishcakes with veg, one or 2 nights might have oven food (9 months with baby 2 so not doing as much cooking as would usually). Lunches are usually sandwich/tin of soup/DD has things like chicken gougons if not eating the same as me.
Typical food shop - fresh fruit (apples/bananas/strawberries/raspberries/ oranges) fresh veg (brocolli/carrots/potatoes), miscellaneous staples like houmous, yoghurts etc as well as meat mentioned when listing typical meals. I do often make a chilli/a large tuna pasta bake etc which theoretically should see us through for a few days but never quite does, as OH often comes home for lunch so will heat up a portion of this etc
Please can anyone offer advice on where I'm going wrong & how to make some savings?! Thanks!

OP posts:
gaffamate · 17/01/2020 12:49

I hate shopping multiple places every week so I've now moved to doing one big bulky buy at aldi for basics (tinned toms and the like) and toiletries, and buy meat in bulk from the butchers. I do that every 6 weeks which brings down the top up weekly shop a lot. Also freeze breads and milks because they go off otherwise.

Urkiddingright · 17/01/2020 12:52

I agree with PPs re Aldi or Lidl, you just can’t beat the price and the quality is fantastic too. I’ve always been fairly snobby with brands and thought supermarket versions were crap till I tried Aldi’s, they’re usually almost identical. We have four DC under the age of ten and spend about £100 a week on groceries. We eat mostly fresh stuff and lots of fruit so it does cost more than frozen junk but Aldi saves us a pretty penny.

daisypond · 17/01/2020 12:53

I suspect some things that you regard as essential aren’t. Hand wash? I’ve never bought that in my life. Hummus and yoghurts - do you mean those little ones? - not essential. Raspberries- not essential. Are you buying those small punnets? They’re extortionate. How often do you eat meat or fish? Neither is essential.

Graphista · 17/01/2020 12:59

Shopping seasonally is not only cheaper and better for the environment it’s healthier too.

The items are better quality and actually interestingly if you look into it you’ll find the nutrients match up to our seasonal health needs.

I’ve lived on a budget for many many years now I’m used to it.

Bulk out meals and things like soups with cheap veg - beans, lentils, carrots, potatoes...

Or cheap carbs pasta, rice, cous cous, noodles. Buy the latter 3 either from the “world foods” aisle in the supermarket in bulk or even from shops that cater to Asian or Middle Eastern communities.

Shopping around can really help too, I know can be harder with a baby but can really save you money.

I’m housebound and ltd to online shop at the moment but when I’m able to go out and about I’d shop around, on the same day start off shopping in smaller shops so by the time I got to the supermarket I knew what I had left to get.

But also KNOW the price you normally pay for an item - last weeks receipt on you could be very handy.

Eg pound shops first - they’re very unpredictable, and not always actually cheaper as sometimes the product on offer is in a smaller portion size etc. But certainly I found them cheap for snacks and sweets, cooking sauces, tinned products (especially if you have certain brands you liked), cleaning products, paper products (kitchen roll, loo roll)

B&m and home bargains are generally cheaper for cleaning products, paper products, unpredictably for food products (I found them very good and cheap for dried herbs and spices and breakfast cereals), I also know friends & family found them cheap for branded nappies (I’m long past that stage)

Bodycare was cheap for toiletries, medicines and first aid products

Wilko was cheap for cleaning products, toiletries, medicines and first aid items, paper products

Farm foods or Iceland for frozen stuff. Iceland I also found was cheaper than most other supermarkets for cheese weirdly. And their emmental is lovely!

Also after many years of being undercut by supermarkets, the supermarkets prices have gone up and now often independent places are cheaper/better value. Butchers, fishmongers, greengrocers and farmers markets and farm shops are often cheaper. My parents have always used farm shops for eggs, potatoes and carrots - they buy in huge bulk! Now it’s just the 2 of them they split the cost and the items with next door neighbours. But certainly when we were little a full sack of potatoes barely lasted them the month. Mum would also order “half a cow” from the butcher which he would joint up for her and she’d freeze and/or a large piece of fish from fishmonger which she would fillet and portion herself (she worked in a fishmongers as a girl so she knows how to do it) she’d also not be afraid to buy whatever the less “fashionable” fish would be as trends affect price but she knew from that job how to prep, portion & cook them. So eg we’d have pollock more likely than cod - very little difference in taste but much cheaper.

Then whatever was left I needed I’d get from the supermarket.

Also note that the “special offers” tend to circulate around the supermarkets - eg one thing I won’t skimp on is fairy washing up liquid I’ve found anything else is a false economy BUT I NEVER pay full price for it. I buy the HUGE bottles when they’re on offer and get 2 or 3 at a time. When I was out and about I noticed favourite brand products would be on offer in Tesco for a fortnight or a month, then it’d be off the offer there but on offer in Morrisons or Asda.

So moving around the supermarkets is good too.

I’m afraid I’m not an Aldi/Lidl fan, the ones I’ve tried there’s been little choice, poor quality and the fruit and veg in particular goes off REALLY quickly and they’re crap for veggie foods.

I actually lived in Germany for a while and aldi was my regular supermarket out there but it was a world of difference compared to the ones in the uk. I was so excited when they opened here but quickly disappointed.

“But what I will say is that it might be an idea to separate your household items and toiletries budget from your food one, just to get an accurate picture. When I did this, I realised that some months I was spending £50 on them (when a number of things had run out like laundry detergent, toilet roll, shaving gel, wax strips, razor blades) and hadn't realised that had bulked up the spend. If you get forensic about it, it might surprise you.” Very true!

I have ocd so spend a crazy amount on cleaning products, but if I eliminate them from what I spend what I spend on food and toiletries is very minimal.

I disagree Sainsburys is not that much more expensive than Tesco/Morrison’s/Asda. I switched to them after having problems with Asda and Tesco online shopping and worried it would be loads more expensive it really wasn’t/isn’t.

Doing 2 shops a week is insane though! You WILL be buying stuff you don’t need just because you’re in the shop - we’ve all done it! Gone in for a basic we’ve run out of like bread or milk and fallen for special offers mainly on “treat” things like crisps, sweets, dips, fizzy drinks...

Do you ever watch “eat well for less” op? Quite often the family’s that shop most frequently regardless of family size are spending way way more than even others that have been on the programme.

Remember supermarkets pay experts THOUSANDS to design supermarkets - layout, lighting, displays even smells and music used - to make you spend more money than you intended to!

Make a note of the things you tend to run short of and instead make sure you buy enough in ONE weekly shop to do you - it seems counterintuitive at first as initially you’re spending more but actually it saves you money

And yes thoroughly meal plan.

My bad habit was in convincing myself I’ve not enough x to last and I must have forgotten to add to shopping list so I get another “just in case” then discover I’ve 4 when I’m putting the shopping away!

I got to the point I’d have on my shopping list “NO MORE passata” “DO NOT get more cous cous” 😂

However also bear in mind there’s a bit of competitive underspending on mn, I’m also aware from many discussions on here, in real life and from watching “eat well for less” that people often underestimate how much they’re spending.

I’ve helped out a few people in real life and in every case they were “counting” the big weekly shop amount (roughly, usually underestimating by up to £40) as their only spend and not including:

Top up shops
Corner shop spends
Takeaways/eating out
Lunches or drinks bought out and about

Which massively upped the food spend. The first 2 of those Absolutely should be included.

It’s like dieters (and again, I’ve been guilty of this too) who think they’re not eating that much because they’re only including meals, underestimate the portions AND ignore all the snacks and calorific drinks they had the rest of the day.

“Canned soup is expensive. Buy a soup maker and make your own.” Bit of irony there - you really don’t need a soup maker! A stick blender maybe although I find a jug blender a bit easier but you don’t have to blend soups. They’re so easy to make. Great for using up veg past its best and for sneaking less popular veg into reluctant eaters. Stock, herbs and spices, marmite etc add flavour.

One of Martin Lewis’s tips is moving down just one brand level. You rarely notice the difference and if you do and you don’t like it you’ve tried it and can return to usual brand the next week. This doesn’t just apply to actual branded goods but eg if you normally buy the premium range level of an item try the regular range level, if you normally buy regular try the budget level.

You won’t like all of them but you may also surprise yourself. It can be a really interesting exercise, eg I didn’t think I was that fussy about cereal but I really can’t abide the budget level it’s just rank, but I’m ok with regular shops own level.

I must admit when I WAS at that stage pampers were the only nappy that fit dd and didn’t leak (she’s always been REALLY slim which belied the amount of poop she was able to produce!!) we tried all the others it was pointless, but we did shop around and got the boxes of I think 48? In a pack and only bought them on offer never paid full price, if they weren’t on offer in supermarkets they would be in boots or superdrug.

Infrequently bought non-perishable items I try to only buy on offer too - teabags, coffee, hot chocolate, marmite, stock cubes, dried herbs and spices, tomato purée, passata, carbs (pasta, rice etc)

Dixiechickonhols · 17/01/2020 13:02

Aldi/Lidl. Use their veg of the week. Try and go to supermarket for reductions one evening. Can save a fortune especially on meat and nice fruit.
If you are all eating at home remember that. Some people only spend x but children have school lunches, they buy lunch out.
Big pots of yoghurt not small tubs. Frozen berries.
For toiletries and some food b & m or Homebargains can be much cheaper.

managedmis · 17/01/2020 13:03

Any of this making sense op? Sound feasible?

AssangesCat · 17/01/2020 13:04

2 adults and a child that eats about as much as an adult. We meal plan and shop at Waitrose due to it being about 5 mins walk away. We probably spend about £70 a week, and I could get it down if I really tried.

I used real nappies most of the time and when no longer needed I gave them away on Freecycle, might be worth a go.

We also use bars of soap and most household cleaning is done with dilute detox in a spray bottle.

RhymingRabbit3 · 17/01/2020 13:04

I find shopping online helps me keep spends down because fewer impulse purchases and also it keeps track of what you're spending as you add it, so you can see when you're getting near the budget. Watching "eat well for less" people always underestimate how much they've spent and by the time it's gone through the till it's too late, whereas when you can see it on the screen and think "oh I've already spent £100 and havent even got to Thursday lunchtime" you can go back and take things out that you dont really need.

Agree with others saying stop your husband from having dinner for lunch. Get some bread or tins of soup in - nobody needs to eat chilli or pasta bake for lunch or if they do they then dont need a full cooked dinner

Lipperfromchipper · 17/01/2020 13:05

You need to shop at lidl/aldi or asda OP

Meal plan and portion plan

Set out a portion for dh’s lunch and tell him to eat fruit after.

I feed our family of 4 on 65 per week. And that’s all meals. Healthy and cooking from scratch.

Scarlettpixie · 17/01/2020 13:06

I spend around £80 for me and DS 13 and wet food our dog. I buy his dry food elsewhere. That includes lunch for both of us too.

Have you tried online shopping? You can look where nappies are on offer (use my supermarket.com) and then shop there.

Meal planning and knowing what is in your cupboards to use up helps.

Have a look on moneysavingexpert.com. They run a monthly grocery challenge and there are tons of tips on reducing your spend.

AssangesCat · 17/01/2020 13:08

Top ups of fruit and veg done at local greengrocer, less temptation to buy stuff that wasn't on the list.

I second (or third or whatever) the Jack Monroe book. Quite a few of those recipes are family faves of ours now.

Can't go wrong with jacket potatoes, cheese and beans. Make that a weekly event.

starfishmummy · 17/01/2020 13:10

Soend the next week writing down everything you buy (plus costs) and all your meals and snacks. That will give you a better idea where the mkney goes.

The three of us here eat extremely: branded or supermarket "top" brands, lots of fresh fruit and veg (at least half is organic) and we are not spending that amount!! But if you are not planning and/or doing top up shops it is easy to lose track

Besidesthepoint · 17/01/2020 13:11

I'm surprised so many people know how much loo roll they use. I have no idea. We buy the really big bulk packs at lidl, 3 at a time. They seem to last us ages and when I'm halfway through the last one I buy another 3 packs.

worriedabouthealth · 17/01/2020 13:11

Frozen stuff is great we get big bags of frozen berries and vegetables and it works out so so much cheaper than fresh and is just as good for you.

Cheap go to meals for us are
-pasta and homemade sauce (cheap tin of chopped tomatoes herbs garlic etc)
-beans on toast
-vegetable casserole

For desserts we moved to just fruit so the kids can have an apple orange and banana we just get the cheap ones they are full up and it’s cheaper than the desserts they used to have

Own brand biscuits and tea bags etc

But really the freezer is our best friend as we save so much with frozen veg and fruit

SecondRatePony · 17/01/2020 13:15

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Streamside · 17/01/2020 13:19

Your lunches stand out as being not all nutritious or cost effective.Individual tins of soup are pretty wasteful.
I did a huge clear out of my kitchen cupboards after Christmas and was shocked at all the bags of pasta,rice etc.They tend to not get finished and if they're not closed properly spill in the cupboards.I've bought containers and large bags of pasta and rice.My weekly shops always had £4-£5 of pasta or rice included and the large bags are a huge saving.
I shop monthly in poundstretcher for sauces, cleaning products etc and there's a saving of 20p on a bottle of bleach for example.

chocolateandpinkgin · 17/01/2020 13:20

@DesLynamsMoustache
She's spending double that. She's doing two weekly shops, each at 70+

Ohhh I see! I read that completely wrong then. I read it as OP is spending £150-170 every 2 weeks. Yes that's very high then!

On average our weekly shop (usually Aldi/Lidl) is around £55-60. Slightly more if it's a week where we need kitchen roll, toilet roll, washing powder, etc. 2 adults and 2 kids.

Appletreehouse · 17/01/2020 13:24

We're in a similar position, 2 adults, 2 and 5 year old. We've got into a habit of spending £120-130 a week. Whilst that includes nappies and toiletries etc.we're veggie and online shop at Asda too so far too much Blush

Since Christmas we've managed to get it down to £80 pw by:

only doing one online shop a week (we found we were doing it every 6 days or so which added up to more shops over a month's pay)

cutting out most snacks but still keeping the odd packet of value biscuits (Asda cookies 39p) or bag of crisps. I refuse to budge on one £5 botttle of wine every week so we don't feel deprived.

Once our food is finished we haven't been buying anything extra and it's amazing how much we'd had stock piled in the freezer and cupboards we've been using up

we've been throwing out less as we can clearly see what we have and the use buy dates rather than a mass of food piled up in the fridge

When doing top up shops for milk not buying anything else

Bear2014 · 17/01/2020 13:29

We were spending loads in Ocado, we have cut our shopping cost in half by doing the following:
Lidl for most things inc nappies and household products.
Shop seasonally, ie no strawberries in January
Only eat meat once or twice a week
Batch cook and freeze portions to save time and reduce waste
No longer use shower gel, switched to bars of soap

Aquilla · 17/01/2020 13:34

Sainsburys would be second most expensive to Waitrose. Problem identified.

crackofdoom · 17/01/2020 13:35

What are the items you can't get from Aldi or Lidl?

Rye flour (I make my own bread)
Quorn mince & sausages
Night time pull up pants for children older than toddlers
Aussie conditioner (the stuff in the weirdly phallic looking bottles Grin)
KIkkoman soy sauce
Marigold Swiss vegetable bouillon
Wood based cat litter
Iams/ Purina cat food
Herbal sleepy pills
Blueberry and blackcurrant tea.
Lemon cream cleaner
Oat milk
Sainsbury's Basics range also used to be better for washing powder and toilet roll until recently, but they've mucked around with their product range, and now they're not.

Everything else I get from Lidl.

Funcamper · 17/01/2020 13:41

For washing clothes have a look at Ecoballs ( perforated plastic balls full of pellets which gradually get used up over a LONG time) Wayyyy cheaper than washing powder,no itching or allergies,much better for the planet. Acquaintance used to work for a drain unblocking company, they absolutely loved ppl using cheap washing powder.It’s so full of fillers and thickeners kept them permanently in business clearing out huge stoppages in drains......

Serin · 17/01/2020 13:47

When you say you have a roast, are you talking a £23 leg of lamb or a £4 chicken?

Lipperfromchipper · 17/01/2020 13:47

OP This is an example of my weekly shopping and meal plan, this was about 10 less than a normal week because I had a few things at home already. I don’t buy things like hand wash as part of my grocery/god budget. That is a part of my toiletries budget which is about 20 a month (but I don’t spend that every month at all!)

To be struggling to budget my food shopping
Lipperfromchipper · 17/01/2020 13:48

@crackofdoom I get my sons (4.5) pull up pants at lidl! Size 6+

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