To delays toddlers bedtime?

[AmbitiouslyFit]

I’m at home with a newborn and a toddler. We have a 7-7 sleep routine with toddler which works well for him. He also naps for an hour or two during the day.

He used to sleep at 9.30 and wake up at 9.30 but I changed that to accommodate with all the activities we do in the morning. To be fair most mums I speak to their kids are awake by 6 am and asleep by 7.

Is there any wisdom behind toddler sleep time being so early as I am struggling to wake up at 7 am in the morning.

DH is a night person and by the timr he feels like watching a movie it’s the time I’ve collapsed in bed and so I was hoping to change our times to fit around family life better.

Would it I regret changing his bedtime from 7.30 pm till 9.30?

Why are you waking him at 7? Why not just leave him to wake up in his own time? Most activities don't start until 9 at the earliest.

My experience with my LO, and every child is different, but the later my 2.5yr old goes to bed the same time she wakes up. In fact I would say sleep breeds sleep to a certain extent. When my husband puts her to sleep later than 7.30pm, she still wakes by 6.30am I just have a cranky toddler all day.
Probably better to cut the nap in the day to 1 hr, and see if they sleep longer at night.

Why are you waking him?

I can put my son to sleep at 7pm or 10pm and he still wakes at 6am sometimes earlier. I'm following this thread with interest as I would like to hear how others manage to get their los to sleep later.

I don’t wake him up in the morning. I wake him up from his nap by 3 otherwise his bedtime will be later. Shall I leave him to nap as much as possible?

Shall I leave him to nap as much as possible? god no!!! They will sleep late but still wake early, well mine does.

Ds wakes up at 6 am everyday but can go back to sleep so long as I’m lying next to him in bed and can give him breast milk. He would happily sleep until his wake up time (usually same time he slept, if 7pm then 7 am he wakes up).

Do what works for you at this point! We do 7-7 because I want evenings free and DH takes her in the morning anyway but if it didn't work for our lifestyle and she was happy with another schedule and it worked better then we would do that. She's a bit like this as it is: if she goes to bed late she tends to sleep her 12 hours anyway.

TBH I dont think a 7am wake up time is so ridiculously early its worth faffing and having him awake in the evening for longer.

DesLynamsMoustache that’s good. You’re right I’m just worried if I’m gonna be introducing bad habits for the future or something. But yeh it’s not helping our family life. DH can’t take him in the morning and I’m resentful by the evening. DH is an evening person. And wants to spend time with DS but I’m wanting to put him to bed and so on. Me and DH aren’t getting much time alone together because when kids are in bed by 7.30 I’m grumpy from tiredness lol.

OnlyFoolsnMothers 7am isn’t rediculously early but it’s early for me as I’m struggling to wake up and not be knackered all day. I don’t sleep at 10. I sleep at 12sh. As DH is at his most alert state at 10 and its when we first manage to catch up.

I've never heard of an adult having a "most alert state" before! I think you might be overthinking it. Just put the kids to bed at 7 and ask DH to be more alert at 8 instead!

Tell DH to be alert earlier 😂😂

All jokes aside I probably wouldn't interrupt a perfectly good routine. Go to bed at 10.

DH is a night person and by the timr he feels like watching a movie it’s the time I’ve collapsed in bed and so I was hoping to change our times to fit around family life bette

DH is the one that needs to adjust here

i would. Just adjust it a bit and see how that works rather than going from 7pm to 9.30pm.

Try an 8- 8.30pm bedtime and see if that leads him to waking more like 8am. That will give you an extra hours sleep in the morning, but also not too late in the evening.

With 8am waking you still have time then to go to any morning activities you like

Start complaining when your little one wakes at 5:30 regardless of bedtime and then I'll have some sympathy

Just put the kids to bed at 7 and ask DH to be more alert at 8 instead!

I promise I tried !! It’s just he comes home from a long commute and is very knackered and wants to lie down a little to unwind and then feels very chatty by 10! He is an evening person apparently ! So he is very grumpy/sleepy in the morning and more alert in the late hours lol.

In any case I’m just wondering whether putting toddler to sleep at 9.30 so I can get a slower morning would be compromising him in any way. Also so that DH can spend time playing with him in the evening.

I personally couldn't cope with DS being up until 9.30 in the evening. I'm more than ready for him to be in bed by 6.30.

Could you not ask DH to sit down with you a bit earlier and then go off and do whatever he needs to do. My DH has a side business but we always sit down for an hour together after DS is asleep and then he'll go off and do whatever

Personally I can cope with a grumpy DH not a grumpy toddler-
Don’t think a toddler should be up until 9.30- plus think of the rod for your back when it’s time to get up for pre school etc

I think the difficulty you’re going to have is when your toddler starts nursery you’ll need to bring his bedtime forward again and it might not be that easy once he’s a bit older. I think I’m this circumstance you and your DH need to adjust.

coragreta I’m not complaining :S. And no need for sympathy I’m sure there are more pressing things on this planet to cry over. This is an enquiry. I’m just curious about bedtimes.

And a bit sleepy from 2 under 2 waking me up all night long!

@AmbitiouslyFit have you tried shortening nap time or ending it all together? For me, when I have my nieces, I actually either shortened nap time or had them thoroughly occupied so they didn't nap and therefore when they went to bed they slept more peaceful and longer. I only started this at age 3. I notice that naps were not as necessary as they seemed as the children only regenerated more energy and made it hard for them to sleep when the time came. For those that did absolutely NEED to nap I simply shortened their nap time. It worked for me with zero ill effects.

Yes we are down from napping for 3 hours during the day to only hr now. He is not 2 yet so I feel he needs it as he is generally asking for it when he goes beyond. He saying “sleeping bunnies” and makes a sleeping face too adorable to miss. I think he will sleep much earlier if I remove his nap time right ? Which is the opposite of what I’m after I feel.

Sounds like you and DH need to reassess your schedules.

I’m not struggling to adjust his sleeping routine I’m just wondering whether I should. It took me a while to reach the 7-7 routine so don’t wanna regret messing it up.

Your dh has a lie down when he gets in when you have 2 under 2's?
I wonder how many mums do that.