Do I go/ not go?

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Booked to go to a spa day and afternoon tea with my sister today, as it's my birthday tomorrow. She's just cancelled. Should I go on my own? Would you?

I feel like it's a waste of money otherwise, and I'd like the massage - but I feel like is there much difference lying there and reading a book than lying in my bed and reading a book... and afternoon tea for one person is going to be awful, isn't it? Anddd I pulled a muscle in my leg yesterday and I feel like driving a couple of hour round trip is going to make it even more sore.

Help me! I really have no idea..

Have you paid? If so I’d go. Cana friend come with you at short notice? If not, go. Have a swim and a massage and enjoy your own company!

It's a shame that your sister had to cancel, can you ask a friend to step in a short notice? Would the venue allow you to 're book for another day?

Well it sounds like you don't want to go so don't go.

Put it on Facebook and one of your friends might take it off your hands. Tell them they can have it for £20. Sorted.

Call the venue and see if you can move the booking to a different day.

Well I'd go! I'd never pass up going to a spa!

Have you paid? If you cancel will you lose money?

Who paid for your sister? Is she going to reimburse you?

I would definitely go, but tbh, I wouldn't have had a problem booking to do it on my own in the first place, so.

Can't change booking, yes, we both paid for ourselves. Nobody to step up at late notice.

I'm thinking I'll go, but maybe ask if I can get the afternoon tea to take away, and have it with my little girl for dinner. Do you think they'll do this?

How old is DD? Is there a way you can have a swim and massage and someone can pop a frock on and drop off your DD to join you for afternoon tea?

How old is DD? Is there a way you can have a swim and massage and someone can pop a frock on and drop off your DD to join you for afternoon tea?

She's 4, no - it's quite far away and we don't really have that kind of support. My sister is just phoning them now to see if the dates can be changed, though it says they can't in the email, so probably not - but fingers crossed!

I say go and enjoy all of it.

Thing is, if I would have fancy tea by myself I might feel a bit self-conscious... but if I would see some other woman do it by herself, I would be quite impressed that she just does it and enjoys herself.

So go for it and happy birthday!

Go for it!!! Take a good book with you and enjoy :)

Go in your own. Enjoy yourself.

I recently attended a spa day and they where more than happy to box up what we couldn't finish for our afternoon tea. My husband was delighted with what I brought him back.

Yes they will give it you in boxes ....your little girl will love it ...win win situation ...go and pamper then tea with your lo xxx

I hope your sister has an actual valid reason for cancelling. I'd be raging if it was me!

My little nephew with autism has been up all night being sick and has a high temperature etc. so can't go to nursery and he wouldn't be ok being left with anybody else, so am absolutely not cross with her.

They have said they don't usually change the dates, but they will on this occasion. So alls well that ends well. I would have gone, but it'll be much better with my sister. Thanks for all the advice!

Happy to hear that OP!

Just for info. I've done one on my own and it was lovely.

Glad you could change it though

Oh glad you managed to change it! I would have come with you

Glad that they allowed you to swap the date. Have a great birthday tomorrow.

I’d go. I’d probably enjoy it more alone 😊

Why would afternoon tea for one be awful? You'll be in the best company doing something you love, embrace it!

That's great that it's solved! It's better that your sister didn't find someone to look after your nephew as she'd probably pass the bug on to you and that would ruin your birthday!

That actually sounds awesome. Massage, afternoon tea, reading a book by the pool and no one to have to entertain or even talk too. Heaven.

Do it!