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Why text me? Innocent or excuse

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Conflicted1212 · 15/01/2020 23:58

I broke up with my ex a few weeks ago. Was seeing him for 5 months. I broke up with him as he was really busy and we didn’t get to spend time together. No hard feelings as it was situational rather than bad feelings. In the break up text he said he was still interested, but admitted his life was too busy to give me what I wanted, so understood. Fair dues, life gets busy, but I wanted more to develop, than seeing him once a week after work. So did he, but kids, work distance etc played a factor.

I wasn’t that upset, as I think I had checked out a few weeks ago. We have both been Active on OLD (seen him on it)and NC to each other.

Sunday I texted and asked when I can get my stuff back. Few polite texts of how we are. As usual he was really busy to drop it off. He works in my city so we agreed when we broke up he would drop it off after work.

He said he would drop by on Monday, I was not in and asked to drop at neighbours or come to my work. He said no. Said I was about on Thursday, offered to come to his work. He said no, as driving his friend home, he couldn’t catch up properly with me, as pal in the car. That is no issue to me, just hand stuff over.

He then texts me yesterday to say he has a bad headache, can he get medical advice. I work as a registered healthcare practitioner, but not a dr and told him to go to his GP. Had a few text chats, and he starts telling me about his stresses. I concluded it was probably that.

Today he texts me saying he feels better, thanks for advice. Few more texts of random stuff.

Why is he texting me asking for advice when his sister is a dr? Why can’t he just drop my things off and needs to have a chat? Innocent or excuse to chat?

OP posts:
Plumbus · 16/01/2020 00:02

Why is he texting me asking for advice when his sister is a dr?

Because he's not actually after medical advice. Sounds like he misses you and wanted to open a dialogue.

reeree95 · 16/01/2020 00:07

He just wants to find a way to talk to you

YouNeedToCalmDown · 16/01/2020 01:03

Sounds like he needs/wants attention but unwilling to commit to a relationship...
All the while making no effort to return your belongings.

windycuntryside · 16/01/2020 02:24

He’s keeping you hanging on for an opportunist shag, it’s obvs based on can’t drop off your belongings because he has a friend in the car.

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