To just up and go

[Iamboudicca]

I am in a bit of a mess. Both DH and I have found ourselves job hunting... and not getting along. I need a break. AIBU to just book myself a flight and go and visit a good friend who lives abroad. - Just for a few days...

My guilty side says it will cost money (about £100 or so that I have but could be spent elsewhere) and that I should be looking after the kids (But DH could do that of course). I also worry that I should be working on my marriage not running away from it. I’d be back to make any interviews should I get one.

I don’t know why I am doubting this plan so much - but I’ve not done anything so spontaneous (or so selfish) for years.

I think it would be massively unreasonable.
Flip it and consider how you would feel if your husband did this and left you down on finances from flight costs and looking after the kids.
If you can say you wouldn't be hurt and pissed off then go ahead an be spontaneously. Personally I would stick with my family and keep working to make things better.

You have a family in straitened financial circumstances. You don’t get to be spontaneous.

Sorry but YABU- you don’t know how long you will both be out of work for so you need to make your money stretch. Definitely not booking holidays. Your DH would get slaughtered for such a suggestion on here!

Sorry YABU you have responsibilities

is it a reverse?

How would you feel if your dh booked himself a wee holiday and just went? Be absolutely honest with yourself now.

If you would be understanding, yanbu.
If you’d be mad as hell, yabu.

Talk to him, maybe you go the he goes, then work on re connecting.

spoke to DH... he was thinking of taking himself skiiing! Maybe I should up my budget!

Wow what a bizarre approach you both have given your situation

pictish Good point. I would be happy enough if he took himself of for a couple of days for somewhere cheap... as in my last post, he has other ideas...

I don’t think skiing is a good plan... or spending loads. I could manage a hundred quid.. The jobs ai sm spplying for publish their interview dates in advance so I can work around these...