Should I lie about grandad dying?

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If colleagues ask how my Xmas was is it macabre of me to mention my grandad passing? Ordinarily I would go with the normal pleasantries but it seems weird to say "great/fine thanks".

I hate attention so have not enjoyed the awkward convos.

It’s absolutely fine to say it was a sad Christmas because your grandad died.

Sorry for your loss.

If you dont want it to be too personal just say we had a family bereavement

I've known a number of people over the years who have mentioned similar things. I agree it would be weird to say it was 'fine'.

I think I'd mention it.

No it's not weird to say that your grandad died over Christmas if he did.
It's equally not terrible to not mention it if you don't want to talk about it. It's up to you how much or how little you tell people, don't over think it.

This was us.

When asked.

It was a bit of an odd one. We lost my grandad.

So sorry to hear about your Grandad

Difficult. I think in your situation I would tell people I regard as friends, or also anyone who needs to know.

As for people I don't know well who are just asking and expecting a "had a lovely time, thanks and you?" I probably wouldn't mention it. I'd maybe say something like "my daughter really liked xyz (the turkey or her present, etc" to avoid describing Christmas itself.

Not weird to mention it. I hate attention too. So be mentally prepared for a little bit of awkwardness. Maybe have a stock response ready - thank you, we're all going to miss him but he had a good life/ glad he's not suffering/ didn't suffer - to close off the conversation.