have been on reflecting on past stuff recently..always thought after having an abusive marriage I must be a bad judge of character however before I got married I briefly dated a guy who in many ways seemed like a good catch but I ended the relationship Because I sensed he told me lots of lies and just some how was flaky and had attitudes towards women that I didn't like. have very recently found out that his ex wife had to get a restraining order on him. that made me realise that perhaps my judgement is not always terribly wrong (although it was with my ex husband). What do you all see as red flags early on in a relationship? if you met a young woman and she wanted your advice on red flags what would you say? im asking this because some women seem to go through life having healthy relationships with guys and yet others seem to have one after another. (Im not blaming the women by the way, I just wonder do some women smell out red flags better than others and why?)