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Rinoachicken · 15/01/2020 14:32

Looking for some advice please! Have posted in litter tray but need responses!

Rehomed two cats 3 years ago, male and female.
Not related but had always loved together. Both had been done.

They were fine, but I noticed the female went into heat, every Tom cat in the vicinity on my doorstep like ‘the birds’, and my male was very stressed out and over grooming as a result.

Vet confirmed that it is not uncommon for a bit to be ‘missed’ and so in the end I had her ‘re-spayed’. No longer went into heat and she was happier, male cat more relaxed.

BUT ever since then they fight. Constantly. It’s him attacking her, and I mean attacking, it’s vicious. He chases her out and won’t let her back in. I started using Feliway and that has improved things to the point that they tolerate being in the same room now, though he will still go for her at least a couple of times a week and it’s worse if I’m not prompt with breakfast!

I assumed it was to do with maybe her scent being different now, and hoped it would improve with time.

But more recently he’s started to attack my kids. He has a spot on the sofa that he’s decided is his. If either of my kids (6 and 10) dare sit close then he bites and scratches.

They are not antagonising him in anyway, they dote on both cats, and treat them with respect.

I’m going to take him to the vets to make sure there’s nothing underlying going on of course, but is there anything else I can do? My girl cat stays out his way and makes the best of it, so I’ve let
it go on, but I can’t let him be aggressive with my kids just because he wants prime spot on the sofa. She is out most the time (avoiding him no doubt) but he stays in and is a typical lazy boy.

If would break my heart to have to regime him, but honestly that’s entered my head now (assuming it’s nothing medical) because he’s making everyone else’s lives miserable!

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Rinoachicken · 15/01/2020 20:00

Well I’ve spoken with the kids. We’ve all had a big cry. Their childminder’s cat died of old age last year and she had it cremated and got a little cat shaped box, they straight away asked if we would do that for our cat which I said of course we can. They don’t understand cremation but I already intended to go this route so I’m pleased they also like the idea. They also want to make a little memorial for him so we are going to find some nice big flat stones and they can paint them and write on them and they want to put them next to the front doorstep where he used to sit.

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Rinoachicken · 15/01/2020 20:01

My female keeps coming in and out the house meowing at me. I think she is wondering where he is 😢

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Rinoachicken · 15/01/2020 20:02

The pair of them at a happier moment (dinner time!)

Posting for traffic - cat issue
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ALongHardWinter · 15/01/2020 20:30

You say they've been done,so how come the female is coming into heat?

ALongHardWinter · 15/01/2020 20:33

Sorry,just read your last post. So sorry to hear this. 😪

Rinoachicken · 15/01/2020 20:37

@ALongHardWinter apparently it’s not uncommon for cats to have three ovaries, and it’s easy to miss as they are so small. Even a small amount of remaining tissue can cause them to still go into heat, but they can’t get pregnant.

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ALongHardWinter · 16/01/2020 19:07

Well,I never knew that! And I've been a cat owner practically all my life.Blush

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