Partner deleted all search history

[lalalalala123456]

He deleted all search history , or attempted to On his phone , but he forgot to delete that he has searched for a specific porn model who is very specific in a particular industry . He searches her every day ..

I know people will say I should trust him. But he has done this before around 2 years ago and he got caught , now he is doing it again . What would your initial thoughts or reactions be ladies / men?

The only reason this has been brought up and why I checked was because he quickly put his phone away last night and he hasn’t done that since he last got caught.

[Retroflex]

You are still unreasonable to be searching his browsing history...

Him "Typing in stuff like : How do I get * email address / phone number Ways to meet up with Is it possible to meet up with " sounds like stalking* behaviour, again, that's his issue...

As for you saying "Ok so I’m done with life ."

That is a disgusting thing to say to people who are giving you opinions which you asked for! Saying "you're done with life" is actually a trigger for people who are or have been suicidal in the past! I do not believe for one second that you will be feeling suicidal over your partner looking for information on a porn star online @lalalalala123456!

[Buggedandconfused]

It would not bother me if my partner watched porn, I watch it too sometimes! But if he or I were trying to contact a porn actor I’d be fucking livid!! If your boundary is for your partner to NOT watch porn and he knows this, then this is the problem.

[Thesuzle]

God i hate it when people say “its just porn” the damage this stuff does is incalculable

[Notlonely]

@lalalalala123456 are you ok?

[Walkingdeadfangirl]

I keep trying to get Brad Pitts email address, he never replies to me. Am I am a bad person?

[Janemarpling]

It would totally bother me op. It isn't acceptable at all. It's disgusting and desperate.

You are not being unreasonable at all.

[Emmelina]

Sounds a bit obsessed with her to be fair, but he’d never actually have a chance of anything with her unless she offers lessons in stuff. I wouldn’t be able to find Jason Momoa’s email and phone number by searching for it 😂
He sounds like a silly teenager with a crush and needs to grow up.

[Zeusthemoose]

Your getting a hard time Op by people not reading your replies properly.
Of course his behaviour is not normal and I can understand why you checked his search history if he's done it before. Hope your ok

[Retroflex]

@zeus what have people not read correctly? I know I personally haven't misread anything as I copy and paste the quotes...

[YasssKween]

Don't run off OP people would like to help it's just difficult when details are drip fed because it changes the context. I think a PP has it on the nose here:

Not normal at all that he is trying to get her personal contact details and meet her... I’d be concerned it’s turning into stalker territory. That goes beyond adding on SM, watching and looking at pictures of said porn model/actress.

Searching someone daily to find ways of getting in touch with them is pretty concerning, I would be worried about him thinking this is ok to do and thinking that he had a chance of doing it.

Was he searching for ways to get in touch with her last time, or just searching her name?

I would find it creepy someone I was with was looking at any one person so obsessively, porn star or not, and wouldn't feel comfortable with them.

However I also don't think it's healthy to search through someone's search history and think that's a sign the relationship is already in serious trouble.

[user1473878824]

Him trying to contact her is not okay AT ALL. You need to sit down with him and ask him what the fuck is going on. That goes way, way over the line.

Him having a preferred porn actress is not u reasonable though, and looking through his phone isn’t either. But those things really aren’t the big issue here. OP, ask to get the thread title changed.

[Buggedandconfused]

I doubt the OP will be coming back after the tongue lashing she got. Poor woman, some of you we’re vicious.

[Retroflex]

@bugged she was the one who had an OTT reaction with her writing a known trigger phrase! Anybody who has been or is currently suicidal will know the effect those words have on their mental health! But some drama lamas just can't help themselves! They're narcissistic and think that they can change people's opinions if they're being "sympathic"

[Greenpolkadot]

Do you honestly think OP that a porn model who is well known will want to form a relation ship with your DP?
She must have lots of pervs trying to get in contact with her. She probably ignores them all. Men who do this make themselves look right tits

[Sadiee88]

Trying to meet up with a porn star is definitely unacceptable! Can’t understand why so many people would think it’s ok.

But if you feel you have to check up on a partner all the time, is the relationship going to last....

[wafflyversatile]

Has he been obsessing over her every day for 2 years or is it some fantasy hes had 2 years apart to distract from something?

Whatever posters here feel about it it's obviously not ok with you. So what are you going to do about it?

[Cryingoverspilttea]

He sounds as loopy as you, tbh, OP.

[user1473878824]

@Retroflex I’m sorry if you’re finding that difficult but you’re really overreacting.

[1forAll74]

Do you think that he would be any good with the porn model ? Special talents and all that.

[OvenGlovesWillTearUsApart]

I think he’s not the man for you.

I hope you’re ok OP. I wouldn’t like what he’s doing either.

[agonyauntie2020]

OP, I wish you wouldn't run away, and try not to drip-feed. there is a bit of a consensus if you read the posts after you explained:

(a) quite a few PPs think looking at porn is ok and not worth over-reacting to
(b) almost all PPs think trying to contact/daily search a specific individual is not ok.

You said he had done it before. How far did it go then?

If he stopped last time, how did that happen? Did you do something to stop him?

[TisTheSeasonForMincePies]

Some right dick responses here... Hope you're ok OP

[JaneeceBryant]

Can you not cut OP some bloody slack?!!! I wouldn't be too chuffed if my husband was searching up ways to contact a porn model.

[Wonkydonkey44]

Him looking at porn - not great but hey not a lot you can do about it.

You going through his browser history to catch him out - unacceptable.

Him trying to contact said porn actress- totally unacceptable and I agree with other posters very stalkerish

[PhoneLock]

I'm surprised that the OP was able to get so much information from the search history. Does it store the specific text of messages?