Partner deleted all search history

[lalalalala123456]

He deleted all search history , or attempted to On his phone , but he forgot to delete that he has searched for a specific porn model who is very specific in a particular industry . He searches her every day ..

I know people will say I should trust him. But he has done this before around 2 years ago and he got caught , now he is doing it again . What would your initial thoughts or reactions be ladies / men?

The only reason this has been brought up and why I checked was because he quickly put his phone away last night and he hasn’t done that since he last got caught.

[outherealone]

@Soontobe60 there’s loads of bits saved in weird places in google without you realising . I learned the hard way when setting up shared accounts with my children. It’s crazy how much is saved by stealth if you don’t really drill down into the settings. And on different gadgets too. You might delete it all on laptop but it’s still accessible on the phone etc.

[Soontobe60]

When I delete my search history, all of it gets deleted, not just bits of it. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[dontgobaconmyheart]

I don't think YABU OP- he sounds pathetic and is clesely obsessed with her/finds her extremely attractive. That in itself surely means the relationship should be over? Why is he trying to contact her - not normal and it's hardly because he thinks they could have some really productive chats about the weather is it.

If you're having to check someones search history (and finding bad news when you do regardless) it is surely time to go you don't trust him, he's dishonest (and bloody weird). Feel sorry for this other poor woman who is being stalked online by your creep of a DP as well....

[LawnsLT]

Obsession with a porn star - wrong but not a LTB
Trying to contact and meet said person - LTB

However i do think you added the “trying to meet her” part to justify the thread.

However you shouldn’t have to do that, you warned him last time not to search for her again and his done it....Get some help in RL but I think you are done with him!

[vampirethriller]

Plenty of porn actresses are also escorts. So yes you can find and book them.

[PhoneLock]

I'm surprised that the OP was able to get so much information from the search history. Does it store the specific text of messages?

[Wonkydonkey44]

Him looking at porn - not great but hey not a lot you can do about it.

You going through his browser history to catch him out - unacceptable.

Him trying to contact said porn actress- totally unacceptable and I agree with other posters very stalkerish

[JaneeceBryant]

Can you not cut OP some bloody slack?!!! I wouldn't be too chuffed if my husband was searching up ways to contact a porn model.

[TisTheSeasonForMincePies]

Some right dick responses here... Hope you're ok OP

[agonyauntie2020]

OP, I wish you wouldn't run away, and try not to drip-feed. there is a bit of a consensus if you read the posts after you explained:

(a) quite a few PPs think looking at porn is ok and not worth over-reacting to
(b) almost all PPs think trying to contact/daily search a specific individual is not ok.

You said he had done it before. How far did it go then?

If he stopped last time, how did that happen? Did you do something to stop him?

[OvenGlovesWillTearUsApart]

I think he’s not the man for you.

I hope you’re ok OP. I wouldn’t like what he’s doing either.

[1forAll74]

Do you think that he would be any good with the porn model ? Special talents and all that.

[user1473878824]

@Retroflex I’m sorry if you’re finding that difficult but you’re really overreacting.

[Cryingoverspilttea]

He sounds as loopy as you, tbh, OP.

[wafflyversatile]

Has he been obsessing over her every day for 2 years or is it some fantasy hes had 2 years apart to distract from something?

Whatever posters here feel about it it's obviously not ok with you. So what are you going to do about it?

[Sadiee88]

Trying to meet up with a porn star is definitely unacceptable! Can’t understand why so many people would think it’s ok.

But if you feel you have to check up on a partner all the time, is the relationship going to last....

[Greenpolkadot]

Do you honestly think OP that a porn model who is well known will want to form a relation ship with your DP?
She must have lots of pervs trying to get in contact with her. She probably ignores them all. Men who do this make themselves look right tits

[Retroflex]

@bugged she was the one who had an OTT reaction with her writing a known trigger phrase! Anybody who has been or is currently suicidal will know the effect those words have on their mental health! But some drama lamas just can't help themselves! They're narcissistic and think that they can change people's opinions if they're being "sympathic"

[Buggedandconfused]

I doubt the OP will be coming back after the tongue lashing she got. Poor woman, some of you we’re vicious.

[user1473878824]

Him trying to contact her is not okay AT ALL. You need to sit down with him and ask him what the fuck is going on. That goes way, way over the line.

Him having a preferred porn actress is not u reasonable though, and looking through his phone isn’t either. But those things really aren’t the big issue here. OP, ask to get the thread title changed.

[YasssKween]

Don't run off OP people would like to help it's just difficult when details are drip fed because it changes the context. I think a PP has it on the nose here:

Not normal at all that he is trying to get her personal contact details and meet her... I’d be concerned it’s turning into stalker territory. That goes beyond adding on SM, watching and looking at pictures of said porn model/actress.

Searching someone daily to find ways of getting in touch with them is pretty concerning, I would be worried about him thinking this is ok to do and thinking that he had a chance of doing it.

Was he searching for ways to get in touch with her last time, or just searching her name?

I would find it creepy someone I was with was looking at any one person so obsessively, porn star or not, and wouldn't feel comfortable with them.

However I also don't think it's healthy to search through someone's search history and think that's a sign the relationship is already in serious trouble.

[Retroflex]

@zeus what have people not read correctly? I know I personally haven't misread anything as I copy and paste the quotes...

[Zeusthemoose]

Your getting a hard time Op by people not reading your replies properly.
Of course his behaviour is not normal and I can understand why you checked his search history if he's done it before. Hope your ok

[Emmelina]

Sounds a bit obsessed with her to be fair, but he’d never actually have a chance of anything with her unless she offers lessons in stuff. I wouldn’t be able to find Jason Momoa’s email and phone number by searching for it 😂
He sounds like a silly teenager with a crush and needs to grow up.

[Janemarpling]

It would totally bother me op. It isn't acceptable at all. It's disgusting and desperate.

You are not being unreasonable at all.