Was he being U or was I?

[vadam]

My boyfriends just kicked off at me spectacularly, went totally OTT and called me some really nasty horrible names which I'm upset about.

It's been going on for a while. I feel like his mother, he can't do basic things and he's constantly asking me how to do this and that and it's draining me so much. I have an important exam coming up so need to revise as much as possible when he's home early (often works late shifts) so I asked him could he please put DC to bed whilst I did the laundry before I sat down to study.

Anyway, he's making a cheese toastie in the sandwich maker. Doesn't know how to do it at all, asks me how to do it. He didn't know that it involves 2 pieces of bread per toasty, he was going to put 1 piece of bread in with cheese on top and shut the lid. I looked at him like wtf.. you're a grown man and you don't know how to do things like this

So that set him off. He was shouting, asking why I'm like this, I piss him off, I'm a c*nt etc. I told him he goes way too far with the name calling, he should know how to do basic bloody things!

Am I being a twat for reacting like that? And expecting him to know how to make one? It's really not that difficult is it..

It is sabotage-he knows how to make a cheese toasty but either is a lazy fucker or is deliberately interrupting you/making a scene to stop you studying

Be fair ladies! He might have just beamed down this week.
Is he an alien, OP? Otherwise what excuse is there for a grown man needing you there while he makes a snack?

He does know how to do it [make a toastie] he just knows that you will do it if it looks like he is struggling [which of course he is pretending to do]

And he is abusive too, so you should rethink the whole him being your boyfriend thing...

You need to sort this out, you briefly mention a DC.
Do not let them grow up thinking it's acceptable to talk to someone else the way your boyfriend is talking to you.
It's a complete lack or respect.
And yes, if he has ever eaten a cheese toastie in his life, he would know it involved 2 slices of bread, even common sense would tell you the cheese would get stuck on the top otherwise.

He most likely does know how to make a toastie (only a child or a idiot wouldn’t) but can’t be bothered so just pretended so you’d do it for him.
Stop doing things for him, make him grow up or bin the abusive man child off. You can do better and you don’t want your child growing up thinking it’s the norm.

He called you names?
Definitely end this relationship OP

You had children with him? Please tell me no. Don’t live your life like this.