New DP and I have been together for 6 months but have known each other and have been very very good friends for over 10 years.
The timing was never right for us before but I became single last year and things just fell into place. He's lovely, and everyone always comments how it's like a fairytale ending us being together.
DP works in an emergency service, and as such works with both males and females forming close knit relationships. No issue here, I also used to work within the same emergency service and know what its like. Thats how we met and for at least 4 years our relationship was purely platonic. We also have shared male and female friendship groups whom we socialise with separately and together.
Here is my issue. I'm aware that DP and a married coworker had a fling early last year. Poor judgement on both sides, and something he is very ashamed of. He was single, she was feeling neglected by her DH and going through a hard time, they worked closely together and caught feelings.
I dont think it lasted long but it messed his head up a bit from what I gather from another friend. He made me aware of it quite early on as he didnt want to have any secrets from me but obviously didnt go into great detail.
Anyway, he still works with this woman. No real issue I suppose, she wanted to work on her marriage and he says that there are no romantic feelings between them now.
When we first got together she was still heavily reliant on him as her shoulder to cry on. She has some MH issues and has confided a lot in him. She often text him several times a day, rang him lots, sent him snapchat messages etc. Its tapered off somewhat after she became aware of our relationship, but I know she still sends him snapchats as I've seen him read one and quickly close it off. I dont know if this was to avoid me seeing as it was something he didnt want me to see or if it was just because she has a tendency to send him very loud and annoying chats of her singing badly. It was also recently his birthday and she posted a load of pictures of them together for his birthday message, which seemed a bit excessive? I literally just wrote a quick post on his wall with no pics and all and hers was a proper gushing essay.
Hes very much the agony aunt type, always has been, and always has very level headed sound advice to offer. FWIW, hes 10-15 years older than a lot of his team and is always eye rolling and shaking his head at their shenanigans.
I'm not sure if I am being a jealous dickhead, or if there is something just not quite right between him and this woman.
Would you feel a little uncomfortable? Or AIBU?