In a nutshell it looks like my relationship with dp is imploding. I’m fed up of nothing being perfect enough, he expects me to spend the day cleaning and to have tea on the table by 17:15 when I’m not working. I work 5 on 5 off and we have 3 kids. The youngest is 2 and I spend my days playing, taking him to groups then my afternoons doing homework with the older 2/ fixing them snack and whirlwinding round the house trying to get it tidy enough for passing muster.
I’m exhausted. We bought our first house last March and it was a bit of a fixer upper but we’re getting there. He contributed the whole deposit but I paid for various things out of the 3k of savings I’d accrued like upgrading the electrics, new flooring etc.
He’s mentioned a few times in the last couple of months that I should just buy him out and he’ll go. He’s sick of the clutter and mess and stress of being expected to go to socialise with friends at the weekends. I barely ask to do anything these days because he gets worked up due to undiagnosed anxiety and then he escalated it into a row. I didn’t used to bite back but I’m becoming less patient and more likely to call him on it. I’m the first to admit that our house is never spotless but I’m not if the opinion that a family home should look like a showhome. It’s a lot tidier than my flat when we first met, that’s for sure!
I should point out I’m unable to buy him out so it would be me leaving and he knows that full well. He’s also stated repeatedly that I’d leave with nothing since he paid the deposit.
The furniture has all been paid from my accounts, all bills come from an account in my name only although he pays money into it each month and when we got the mortgage I suggested a deed of trust or something to protect his money but he repeatedly declined. Anyway hopefully that prevents a drip feed.
My aibu question is I’m 99% sure that he’s speaking crap about me being entitled to nothing. Should I take him for half the equity in the property including half of the deposit he paid? It’s a difference of leaving with 15k or about 2 if I’m lucky after solicitors fees.