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[blujohnstons]

AIBU to think it is wrong to start a relationship while your long term now ex is pregnant? Do you think it or wrong Bringing another woman into the situation and offering no support to the mother of your baby? I need some hindsight as I can't see past this.

Babies father won't come to appointments, says he doesn't want to come the birth and wants to seek legal advice as I "hound" him "harrass" him and I'm a plague. He spoke to me during the week and told me if I needed anything i could ring him anytime. I spend all day yesterday in hospital and he wouldn't come so I got angry and Harsh words were said. The reason he didn't come to be there for me was becuase he spent all weekend with his girlfriend.

He doesn't want to come to the hospital when he is born and says he will be taking me to court and doesn't care when he gets to see him as long as he doesn't have to be near me. How can I get through the next 15 weeks and accept this is the way it is.

@blujohnstons I will add that planning made things a lot easier for me. Planning to have friends at doctors meetings for moral support.

Planning a doula.
Planning who's going to take you guys home from hospital.
Plan support if you have a csection.
Planning post partum support (you might ask your parents to come stay with you for the first few weeks)
Plan a schedule of help.
Hire a cleaner for the first few post partum weeks etc.
Meal prep prior to delivery so you've ready made meals on hand.
Discuss your issues with your care team, mine were amazingly supportive and I'd additional care throughout my pregnancy to make sure I was coping ok.

Focusing and planning for stuff you can control will give you focus.

I also went on anti depressants whilst pregnant only through the help and support of my GP. And it made a massive difference.