This is something I have been thinking about a lot and would like to know other's thoughts on this. Sorry if it's all over the place.
I moved out when I was 18 and have been living abroad since (24 now). My parents got divorced when I was a teenager, I struggled with mental health a lot (self-harming and eating disorders). I would sometimes skip school due to these issues, and when my parents found out they said something along the lines of "this isn't going to get you out of school, end of" and then it was all forgotten.
When I went home to visit for the first time after moving away, I gained some weight (10 lbs or so) and my mother said "you gained some weight, didn't you?". Then she would also proceed asking about what I eat and saying food in the UK is junk food and all unhealthy.
I find her incredibly annoying, and it makes me feel really guilty. She's always talking about herself, doesn't ever seem to stop and I dread having to go visit but I do, once a year, to keep the peace. I really don't want her visiting me, she did once and met my DP and it was all just too much. She is just too much for me. I try my best but I think it's visible that I get irritated and I feel like a horrible person.
My mother also seems to love saying "helpful" things that are just little needles. When I cut my hair in a pixie cut she said "what a shame your long hair was so nice". When my boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me and I was crying she said "you'll be fine" and then just left me to it.
I'm not really bothered about keeping in touch with her or my dad, a couple of texts a few times a month is enough. I feel like any chance of us being close or having a good relationship is gone and I'm ok with that. Would rather spend time with my DP's family. Am I a horrible daughter?