AIBU report ex for drug use

[Sunray264]

Name changed for this so it isnt linked to other things I've posted.

I have recently found out that my ex, and father of my 2 year old, has been heavily taking drugs at the weekend. As far as I am aware he hasnt been doing it when our child is with him (he has her every other weekend) but I dont know what goes on when our child is asleep so for all I know he waits till she is asleep and then takes drugs on the weekends he has her too.

These are class A drugs I am talking about and ones that will render you unable to properly function.

AIBU to report him to someone even if I dont know if he is taking them when he has our child? Who would I even report him to? I did a quick Google search but it sounded as though, unless he us dealing drugs, the police wont do anything.

I also have no proof of what's going on other than multiple people saying about how they've either seen him doing drugs or have heard him bragging about how messed up he's been getting.

YADNBU. I wouldn't want my child in the hands of an unfit parent. Even if he's not doing it around your child, he needs help. Report him

Honestly, no one will be interested in his drug use unless he's doing it while he has your child, and even then probably only if your child is neglected due to it.
If you feel he is neglecting your child due to drug use then you should call social services for advice/action.

The use of drugs isn’t illegal it’s the buying l, selling and being in possession of

So basically there is nothing I can do about it?

I'm so worried about it because he doesnt seem to care that people know what hes up to which makes me think he wont care about doing it when he has our child.

Try contacting nspcc they will have some advice for you.

I hadnt thought of NSPCC, thank you.

Which class A is it?

Theres a big difference between getting wrecked on a friday night with mates and taking drugs whilst taking care of a child.

Would you self report for getting pissed in the pub the weekend he has the child or presumed youre drunk all the time with child?

Of course taking drugs isnt ideal but youre making a massive leap here

Do you have court arranged contact? If not, I’d just stop contact. If it is court ordered, then apply for zero contact, speak to your solicitor.

@PolPotNoodle Cocaine, ketamine and acid

@araiwa I appreciate I could be making a huge leap but given things I've been told I'm fairly confident he does take drugs when our child is there, I just cant prove it. I also think getting pissed in a pub is very different from the states hes been witnessed to be in.

You cant stop contact based on hearsay.

If hes looking after your daughter well, and you have no concerns other than these rumours, then court would eat you alive for stopping contact.

Maybe your first step should be to talk to him.

@Sunray264 none of those are drugs that people typically (note vipers - I said typically!) take if they're indoors without any other drug users with them, so I would venture a guess that he's a weekend warrior when he doesn't have your child but I would say unlikely to when he does. If you said heroin or crack then I'd be saying different.

Did he only start taking them recently?

I cant talk to my ex because of past history of abuse towards me, he would lie anyway although I have decided I will say to him that I've been approached by numerous people about his behaviour. He was never like this when we were together and didnt do this when we were together either.

I have some minor concerns about his parenting but nothing serious enough to stop contact. I also know I can't stop contact based on what people have seen when i have no actual proof and dont know if he is doing it around our daughter, I'm merely worried about the slippery slope he seems to be on and that he doesnt appear to be making sensible decisions and choices of late.

I would contact Social Services myself. He’s putting your child at risk.