Should I move house?

[DoIStayOrDoIGoNow]

Name changed because it’s obvious who I am if you know me 😁

Last year my parents moved an hour away from me. I’m a single parent with two kids, and my family have always helped with child minding while I work. I was trying to move closer to them, but my house didn’t sell and I needed to apply for schools for my 4year old so I have up, applied for schools, all sorted. Then last week I got a call saying the house I wanted has come up for rent. Not a problem, I said no, I couldn’t move. Then today my manager calls and says my job in the new area has come up and am I interested in it.

So now I don’t know what to do! I have to submit my school application next week so need to make a very quick choice. I just can’t think! Moving would be expensive, it would be higher living costs, higher monthly outgoings, away from my friends and our life here. But moving would mean a better quality of life! Nicer area for my children to grow up in, being somewhere I want to live, closer to family if something goes wrong (and for general childcare!) But then there’s my bloody house. Can I risk agreeing to move without it rented out? Can I risk the possibility that it might not rent out? I’ll have a few months before being able to move, but is it worth the risk?

I just have no idea what I’m doing. So I’m asking for advice from random strangers online 😂 I think I’ve got voting enabled so yes YABU if I should give up and stay where I am. YANBU if I should take the risk and go

Anyone?

Just noticed people are voting, thank you!

you forgot to agonize about the possibility of your house being rented out - and it going horribly wrong, gets trashed, and/or they don't pay the rent - leave you in loads of debt. being a landlord is not something easy - that you JUST do. A lot of us were forced into the situation in 2008/9 after the bank crash, and were "reluctant landlords" finding ourselves renting our house out (cos it wouldn't sell) and also renting where we ended up living. it is stressful, you have to organize plumbers, repairs, etc and hope the tenants are responsible and look after your house.

so sorry if this went a bit OT but i'd hate for you to not consider this aspect of your major life decisions. it is a significant factor to think about. good luck whatever you decide. IMO fate is calling you to move to the new area.

And now I have the song in my head... 😂

You can apply for both schools - from different addresses as they will be in different areas.

You have answered with better life xx

@Wheresthebiffer2 that’s something I’m massively worried about! My biggest worry is that it doesn’t rent/they stop paying and then I’m stuck paying for both!

@ArntNise it’s been in my head all night!

Why did your parents move are they definitely happy yo keep doing childcare? If yes and the new area is nicer I'd just bite the bullet and move now.

If you are dependent on renting your house to pay your rent in new area then I would say no.
This won't be your only opportunity to move. Dc can change schools later if needs be. It sounds fraught to do it now.

Rent your house out through an agency. They guarantee rent and filter out the scroates, or some do. Jump and the net will appear OP, go for it!

I would say hang on, dont rush. I had to make same decision 13 yes ago but i really wanted to move. I had to move into caravan until i could afford to rent which meant renting my existing house out. Being a landlord was nightmare after nightmare. Even used an agent but still problems collecting rent. My last tenant was managed by an agent but did a runner. Police had to break door down to find they had tanked my house out with polythene, wired up to lamppost for electric and had 500 cannabis plants in every single room! Final straw after specialist landlord insurance wouldn't pay to repair damage. Ended up selling for tiny profit as was too much stress being single parent, working /living 100 miles away. What a relief to get rid of the burden of being landlord. I ended renting houses every 6 months trying different areas out until i purchased again.
In your case, if your questioning moving away from friends etc it sounds as if you not ready to move. Dont let new job offer or rented house thrust you into it. They'll be other opportunities when maybe you feel ready to move. The funny thing is i moved away from big family so was alone but i see more of them now than when i lived closer!

It can be absolute shit being a landlord and it sounds as if that's the last thing you need. You can never, ever, be sure of good tenants. It sounds like it might be a good move at some point, but not if it means you're going to rent your house out.
I don't suppose you could move in with your parents while you sell your house?

I’m a ll. It’s not for someone without deep pockets. Are you getting tax credits or any additional income atm? These will stop / be reduced as your rental income will be added onto your income. The days of tax relief on mortgage interest paid are gone. And you’d then be liable for additional tax. What would happen if the tenants trash the place or don’t pay? Make sure you don’t put yourself in a vulnerable position.

Posted too soon. I’ve voted YABU because you should not be rushing into this. If work will help with relocation, that’s perhaps different. Ask how long they can hold the job open for as you’re interested. Perhaps you could live with your parents short term and sell your house?

@FullOfJellyBeans they got offered the perfect house in the perfect location and couldn’t turn it down. We discussed it and agreed that they needed to take the opportunity while they could. My parents are more than happy to continue helping me