To be looking forward to my night

[Subeccoo]

My mum died recently, within the last 2 weeks. A very sudden unexpected death so am not in any way coming to terms with it yet, a huge rocky path to go etc. I have been surrounded by family every day since it happened, finding even walking my dog alone a bit anxiety inducing, but mostly I've been with my dad taking care of him, by that I mean going for walks, cooking dinner etc, he's fit as a fiddle.
Anyway, tonight he's going to stay with friends and due to my husband going away and teenager going to his friend's, I will be completely alone.
Some family and friends are concerned about this, but even though I've needed to be in company the whole time, I'm strangely looking forward to my night.
I plan on getting pyjamas on at 6.30 when my husband has to leave, ordering a takeaway, having a bath then watching eastenders plus some other stuff on Netflix, before getting an early ish night.
Aibu to think I'll be fine? I have a dog so I'll be cuddling him.
I've been offered to go out, but I really really don't want to!! Like massively don't want to and right now I think looking after my head is the only thing that matters. I'm so pleased my dad's going to his friend's house and we have some other relatives visiting tomorrow so that's good. But for tonight I can have a total chilled selfish night to myself - that's good right?

Most importantly, I can't concentrate on much at the moment. I'm looking for a Netflix series to get into - loved Russian doll and living with myself, along those lines would be fab.

Sorry about your mum OP
YADNBU. Sounds like you need a bit of time to rest your mind and body.

Yes I think it sounds a good plan. Sometimes people assume others don't want to be alone 'dwelling' etc

YANBU - really sorry for your loss but your planned night sounds good. Sometimes it's good to rest alone and just be you!

YANBU it sounds like a blissful way to spend your evening after what I am sure was a difficult two weeks. It’s really lovely though that your family are all looking out for you.
Netflix- have you watched The Witcher? It didn’t really look like my type of thing but after one episode I was hooked and now I am reading the books.

Sorry for your loss Subeccoo
Your night sounds good.

YANBU. Sorry about your Mum Your planned night sounds just what you need. Your friends who’ve offered to go out etc are probably just trying to help. Just say thank you but you just need some alone chill time but you’ll take them up on their offer another time when you feel ready.

Sorry for your loss. My dad died 2 weeks ago, also quite suddenly.

I think this evening on you own will do you good. You might find that you want to cry, but let it out and cuddle your dog! Enjoy your time alone. We all need it from time to time xx

Of course you can value being alone.... and enjoy it! I am so sorry for your loss, and a night of home comfort sounds absolutely the right thing.

There is a recent thread in the tv section on feel good box sets.... you might find something lovely to enjoy.....

XX

You’ll not get any criticism for that, OP. It’s understandable that your family and friends are worried about you, so you need to make it clear that you need time to yourself, or you’re liable to end up with well meaning visitors calling past to check on you. We have three day wakes where I live and people usually stay all night (Irish Catholic tradition) I ended up going up the back garden and sitting behind the summerhouse for 1/2 an hour just to get some time by myself, during my dear husband’s wake. You need some space to think and breath, without someone asking if you’re ok. I’m very sorry for your loss.

Thanks guys. I mean I know Ian u too want to be alone but even I'm a little worried about spending the whole night crying. But even if I do, I'm grieving, it's fine.

Funkyslippers, so sorry for your loss too, its so hard.

Just started watching Queen of the South - good so far :-)

Subeccoo if you spend all night crying, then so be it. It's better out than in. I'm reading a book on grief and so far the most helpful thing I keep telling myself is "sad isn't bad". Infact they wholeheartedly recommend taking time out each day to properly grieve.

You can PM me anytime. Take care xx

Funkyslippers, a book on grief might be a good idea, I'm not concentrating on anything at the moment so perhaps I'll download an audio one.
Just dropped a family member to a train station about 10 miles away so had a little drive back on my own, the flood gates opened massively. Its gonna go on a long time.

Bought new pyjamas for tonight though