To feel guilty for not doing enough with my 10 month old?

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I'm not sure if it's just me overthinking, but I feel really guilty that I don't do enough with my 10 month old, and although everyday I try it doesn't seem to change anything.

We didn't plan to have a baby at this point in our lives, but it happened and we embraced it with both arms; the main thing I guess was buying a house (which we were extremely fortunate to be in a position to do), so I am thankful that we have a roof over our head and I can put food on the table, so I do wonder if I'm being pathetic worrying.

I suffered injury following birth which means my bladder is basically broken, I don't leave the house unless someone else can come with me as the pram won't fit in any of the toilets locally, and I don't get enough notice of needing to go to allow getting home etc; so we stay home alot (I can't wear a sling as my pelvis isnt strong enough yet and it's agony). He has loads of toys, books, I play, we go in the garden, I cook fresh meals, he seems content. We go to baby group once a week as our boiler broke a few weeks after moving in which wiped a huge amount from the money we had saved for maternity leave, and nothing here is free, and in the summer we went swimming- but aside from that and walking to town most days if someone can come with me that's all the stimulation he has. I am starting back at work next month which should maybe help as he will be in childcare during the day and I can get a car on the road again so we can go places.

But I feel so guilty and like I am failing him every night I cry. My partner has been posted away with work for 6 months and that's been hard. I don't know really what I'm asking, I'm just struggling today.

OP, I don’t have your additional struggles which sound awful and hardly ever do anything organised or official with my 9 month old! I cook a lot while she plays with whatever she can grab from the kitchen drawers (silicon colander is her current favourite), I chat and she babbles, we read books, she crawls and cruises and tries to eat the electric cables, we play games and I sing daft songs and we have incredibly messy meal times, people pop in, we take walks. I went to one baby group once so you’re doing better than me on that front! No baby sensory or swimming or soft play because she’s constantly on the go exploring here and I’m very happy with sod all plans and loads of time with her.

You’re doing amazingly, it’s tough being on your own and you’ve been through a lot. Pat yourself on the back and enjoy your baby.

I think you are being way too harsh on yourself. Sounds like you do loads with your him and are providing him with a loving and nurturing environment. As you say he is going to nursery when you go back to work so he'll have plenty of opportunities to mingle with other small people then :) I hope you are able to have your bladder issues fixed someday soon - that sounds really tough to live with.

You sound amazing! He's a lucky boy to have you.

The best thing you can do for a bay is yak to them and interact and sign songs.

Develop language skills.

The rest will follow when you’re able

Talk, not yak! But that autocorrect must be listening to me!

You sound like you are doing amazing.

If you did want to get out a bit more are there any incontinence products that would help? Lots of women seem to have issues around this.