To ask what I should do?

[CupidIsFired]

A guy I went on a few dates with a few years ago messaged me today out of the blue asking how I was. He asked If I'm free at all could he take me for a drink. I've been single for 2 and a bit years now, so I agreed. He then replied with "tbh I have a free house for a few weeks, you could come round and chill and I can get some drinks in"

So my mind has now changed and I dont want to go. Although I've met him before I still dont really know much about him, and last time I saw him was maybe about 4 years ago, we have never slept together either. And I get the feeling that maybe this is what hes after. The initial invite out for drinks was nice and I was up for that.
A friend thinks I should go and just have some fun... sometimes I want to just have NSA fun as my situation right now doesn't have time for a relationship, but the other side of me is wanting to finally meet someone who actually wants to see me for me... not just for sex.
My friend says this is old fashioned and and guys nowadays mostly only want one thing, sometimes that will turn into something more.

But I always get put off a guy when he suggests a date in their car or their house, especially when we dont know much about each other. But friend reckons IBU because I went on a few dates with him years ago so normal standards of dating dont apply

Is that right? Am I being too paranoid or "fussy"
It just seems any guy that has shown interest in me always seems to wanna go for a "drive" or in their house.... this is why I've been on hardly any dates and probably why I'm still single...

Also, I'm happy being single. As much as it would be nice to meet someone, my last relationship ended up being a complete lie and wasted time so I dont want to waste any more time. Lol

Also to add, the last time we dated I decided to go work abroad so wasnt worth continuing anything and wasting each others time.

He sounds dodgy as fuck.

Don't meet him in the empty house. He could be a murderer for all you know Keep your standards high. I like your style and intuition.

I work with a guy who always says it's a "big ask" for a guy to take on a woman with a child.

Well he's one to avoid. FWIW most of my single mum friends are happily in new relationships. With nice men, often hands on single dads.

You need Arsehole Radar.

@Henrysmycat yeah you're right! I know I can be over paranoid, I've always been the same, but its kept me safe this long so I guess it's working. Just people around me have said or suggested things that have knocked my confidence a bit.

@LynetteScavo thank you!

I think PP's are probably right, that he was probably working his way through a list. So I'll decline his offer.

@MrsTerryPratchett I would absolutely love an Asshole Radar, I really believe it would come in handy! unfortunately though, this one works with me so I cant really get away from him that much. And I'm glad to hear about your friends, at least hearing this has made me a little more positive that there are some genuine guys out there.