We have a family wedding to attend mid-week coming up early summer. This coincides with dil’s significant birthday. Son, Dil and baby live at the other end of the country. They plan to come and stay with us bringing her mother and father along to look after the toddler at ours whilst we go to the wedding then next day invite her sister, our other son and wife to ours for her birthday family (birthday) celebration (probably a meal at a local venue) then on the Saturday tack on a (planned) family holiday in the sun (us, both sons and wives and baby) for a week; leaving from ours following a house-full from those preceding days. We will be hosting all these family members at our house.
My problem: AIBU to object to all of the above on grounds of domestic drudgery that will fall on (me) our household. I will be going on holiday following celebrations with everyone, knowing I am leaving a house that will be submerged under mountains of laundry/bedding towels and disarray (that a houseful of guests would include) knowing I have that to face on my return. There will be no time to do all of this prior to the holiday. I will add that under normal circumstances I am quite happy to host and enjoy family occasions like this along with handling all the domestic stuff after because when they all leave I just get stuck in and put the house in order, then breath a sigh of happy satisfaction.
H and I are very good hosts. We enjoy having kith and kin staying with us. It is hard work for H and me but we are making happy memories for all the family. We’ve done this for years our grown-up sons/wives are used to this. Our house is the family hub where we all get together throughout the year.
The holiday being tacked on top of wedding and birthday is for convenience to sons and wives who have limited holidays due to work commitments. We are retired. I am the only one objecting to all of this due to it being me who does the drudge-work - H does most of the cooking with me in the background keeping everything nice and in order. We are a good team.
It is convenient on paper for everyone to attend the wedding; include son’s in-laws to ours for birthday celebrations then jet off together for a holiday at the weekend. I am just thinking what a shit load of work to come back to. Not happy to be honest. AIBU? Should I just suck it up.
We did ‘the significant’ birthday for son and his in-laws in October; hosted Christmas recently. I am a bit tired of it all. Husband just loves all of our family together. He is disappointed I am putting a damper on his/their plans. I feel like a right killjoy. Holiday is currently not booked H and I are currently ‘in discussion’.
We try either May or September to book villas in Spain for the family as it’s too hot for us in the summer. Other dil has her ‘significant’ birthday in September, they are planning a three week exotic holiday on their own for that so Sept is not convenient.