To cut contact with ex?

[Goodgirlgonetobed]

My boyfriend and I split up about a month ago, it was me who ended things. He has a few personal issues that he has to sort through and I was finding them difficult to deal with and found he was becoming very reliant on me. I supported him a lot but honestly I think him relying on me was actually making him worse.

At first I was quite upset, I missed him a lot. I still miss him a lot. The problem is I still have strong feelings for him. I told him I would be there for him while he worked on himself but that I had to take a step back emotionally. I've went a few days without chatting and then he messages and I reply. I feel so conflicted. Part of me feels angry with him for taking advantage of my kindness. I'm angry at myself for putting him first all the time. I miss him being around. I'm glad of the space. I just feel so guilty that I would be letting him down when he really needs someone he can trust. But I don't think he has the same strong feelings for me and I don't want to get hurt.

I know I should cut contact. How can I do this in the most gentle way?

The most gentle way is to be honest and say goodbye and then cut off all contact. People often think they are being kind by keeping the door half open on the relationship or "just being friends" which IMHO is actually far crueller than just saying goodbye and moving on.

Cut all contact. I was with someone for over 2 years that had “issues” I was supportive to the point of putting my own life on hold and all brought me in the end was misery. His Autism and children’s mother drama is enough to put me off relationships for the rest of my life.

Till this day he doesn’t actually realise how much damage he caused me so he thought it was acceptable to message me every now and again after we broke up and in the end the police had to warn him.

If you feel like he’s taking advantage then please get out whilst you can and do not look back. You actually sound like you are dating my ex!

BLOCK, DELETE, MOVE ON!