To live somewhere a year and have no social circle!

[Elladora]

I moved to Plymouth back last January with one of my daughters (she’s now 8) and we have lived here a full year and I still don’t have any “mummy friends” (daddy friends would be great too!!) I am worried that I should be doing more to socialise my daughter outside of school.

Any advice would be great... a coffee date with someone that has an 8yo would be even better!!

Thanks,

Elle

Hi
I'm down the rd in Liskeard and I have a 7 yr old. We're often in Plymouth as my husband works there.
There's a Round Table group in Plymouth that your husband could join. It's a friendship group, but they also raise money for local charities and people in need. They have a Facebook page.
As for the mums, Liskeard has a Ladies Circle group, similar to the Round Table, less beer, more gin! We have a Facebook page too.
I'd be happy to meet up with you and your daughter

Does she go to school?

@fidgety31 she is in school but I haven’t really spoken to the school mums. I would like to get her/me some play dates outside of school and weekends etc.

@HomeEdRocks18 I’m sorry to be dense but what is “Round Table”? To be honest you had me at Gin! 🙄 But I have to mention... I don’t have a husband... a soon to be wife though! 😊

I moved to a new area on my own with kids . But too old for me to mix at their school .
It’s hard to make new friends as an adult.
I’ve only met people through work and a local Facebook group for women in my town .
I’m a single parent and it is incredibly lonely.

I would try and arrange play dates for your child and you will get to meet other mums that way.

It took me probably 2.5 years to establish anything resembling a social circle when I moved from North East to South West. That was a combination of joining a slimming club and getting a job in an environment more suited to me than my previous ones. It's now been 6 years and I have a good set of friends and acquaintances and feel very settled/comfortable.

Sometimes it can just be a slow burner I'm afraid. But you do need to put yourself out there - have you looked at apps like Peanut, Mush, Bumble, Mummy Social, Hoop etc?

Have you joined the Gossip Girls fb group? It's a very busy group and I'm sure if you posted on there with your area (where are you, specifically, btw?) and your DD's age you'd find women who could help / might want to meet up / have a play date.
Another option is to join the PTA at your DD's school. That's often a great way to meet other parents (the PTA at my kids' school is very welcoming).

I don't speak to school mums outside of school, I will say hello but that's it.

I have friends, my son has friends in school and has friends from his old school and his friends at his clubs.

Join the nearest branch of the Gene Vincent and Eddie Cochran International fan club.

I’ve been here 10 and don’t have one either.

It’s not easy to make friends when you are a grownup.

I say this a lot to people who post on MN about making friends.
I struggled for years then went to our local ladies circle and I now have loads of friends and a good social circle. The whole point of circle is friendship.
www.ladiescircle.co.uk/

Oh and we are even going away soon for a butlins weekend which I never thought I'd get to do.

Honestly in the last 5 years I've gone from maybe 1/2 friends to about 15

Thank you so much for all of your responses... I am not shy once I have been introduced to someone but I’m always anxious of “inflicting” myself upon people so I find it difficult it to make the first move as it were... if it were just me I would be happy for things to grow organically as and when... but I’m worried that my daughter is lonely as we have no friends or family here!

Thanks again for your responses! X