To not go to the funeral

[chellochello]

A close friend of mines mum died last week after a long unpleasant illness at a relatively young age. It will be her funeral on Monday and my friend said I was welcome to go.

However I don't do well at funerals (not that anyone does) and I have already attended 2 other funerals in the last 2 months which I have been terribly affected by even though they were not for people I was very close too and I'm not sure I can cope with another one.

My friend will have lots of other family and friends their with her and I don't feel she particularly needs me to be there so I was thinking of offering to pick her kids up from school and have them for the evening so she doesn't need to worry about leaving the wake to get them.

Would I be unreasonable not to attend the funeral?

When my dad died I was so grateful that my closest friend took the time to care for my son. It meant I could attend the funeral and the wake without worrying about rushing off to pick him up. I think your offer (presuming her child won't be attending the funeral) would be a kind one.

I think I would appreciate your help with dcs far more than having you at the funeral. Yanbu to suggest that. I think it's a lovely offer.

I think the idea of looking after her children is a really good one and very thoughtful.