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Coping with feeling shit

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Rosebel · 07/01/2020 14:59

So nearly 15 weeks pregnant and returned to work yesterday after the Christmas break (luckily I don't work Tuesday) and I woke up this morning feeling absolutely terrible. Horrible headache, totally exhausted, unable to eat anything, horrible back pain, I have been asleep most of the morning but still feel awful now.
After today I have 4 days at work without a break and literally no idea how I'm going to cope. I can't go off sick as I took time off before Christmas and I don't want them to force me on to early maternity leave.
This isn't really an am I being unreasonable but more a what would you do? Or is there a way to cope?

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Yellowturn · 07/01/2020 15:03

I don't believe they can force you onto early maternity leave until 4 weeks within your due date but it's worth reviewing company policy. This is usually the one time you can be sick and not face repercussion (although plenty of people take advantage).

If 4 days is too much now its worth having a discussion with your employer to see if there are any options available that work to both of your interests.

RB68 · 07/01/2020 15:05

you don't say what work you do. You need to have an Occi health assessment really - at minimum an assessment of what you are doing at work. They won't force you onto early mat leave just yet (there is a date at which they can but I think its more like 24 weeks and ONLY IF it is related to pregnancy rather than something else - you need to look it up in company's policy or if not that then more generally on gov website if they are relying on that to guide their policy)

For yourself you could look at what you are doing to get to work - can you make it easier in anyway, making sure you eat enough and rest enough at home - are you getting good sleep, is someone helping out at home to take some of the load off you there?

It could of course be you have succumbed to a cold or similar and this is the start etc.

Longer term you might want to use some leave to book some half or whole days to break up the time you are at work, ask for WAH days or other adjustments to help you out

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