Am I being unfair?

[Lifeasamum]

Am I being unfair To expect kids dad to watch his kids if they are Sick on his weekend? Every time children get sick he calls me and expects me to drop everything including work to collect them. I recently had a 12 hour shift lone working as a carer and he refused to have them My employer is aware he has them on the weekends I work and I’m so afraid I will lose my job if this continues to happen. Anyone been in this situation and knows how I can resolve this issue?

I always thought if its your contact time, it's your responsibility. So he should be looking after them.

He cant just take the good times and refuse to take them when things are crap. Looking after sick kids is a (shit) part of being a parent.

What reason does he give for not looking after them? What would happen if you just didn't answer your phone?

Just say no!

Of course he should look after them! He's not a nursery/childminder/babysitter where they can legitimately call the parents if one of their charges are poorly! What would happen if you refused to collect them?

His excuse is always the same he doesn’t want his household to get sick and If I don’t do as he says I get abuse thrown at me and guilt trips that I’m picking work over my children. But my view is the same you can’t always have the good times unfortunately being a parent is parenting your child even when sick. I just don’t know how I can resolve this issue I’m just trying to do the best for my kids and working is to provide for them

Of course he should look after them.
Next time don't answer or just say no, don't leave work if you think you are risking your job.
Luckily my child is hardly ever sick but if he did fall ill whilst with his dad I would expect a call to let me know, depending what was wrong I might try to juggle shifts around but for a common cold or sickness bug there is no way i would be leaving work, losing pay and risking my employment in the process.
I trust my ex to be able to administer Calpol , provide a sick bucket or call for more urgent help if he thinks it's needed, he is a grown man that's been a father for 10 years after all.
Your ex needs to get a grip.

Picking work over your children... how does he expect these children to be fed if you don’t turn up to work?
I wouldn’t be answering his calls when they are next there and are sick

"his household"
His children are a part of his household.
Silly man, I can see why he's an ex.
Just ignore his mantrum he has to look after his own bloody kids sick or not.
You are not wrong so don't doubt yourself.

I agree with everyone else just ignore his calls and texts.

He is supposed to parent during his parenting time. By working when he has the kids, you are giving up what could be free time to provide for them. Somehow I doubt he picks up shifts whenever the kids are with you.

You just laugh at him or say no. This is fairly simple. So what if he tries to guilt trip you. You know he's wrong and he's an ex. So simply say no, as you're working.

Absolutely no way . He needs to step up.

If they're sick on his watch then he just has to step up. Don't collect them, tell him he's their father and it's his responsibility to take care of them for his weekend. Basically just say it's not possible and leave him to it.

Thanks all I think I have just got to get firm and say no and not answer the calls and text. If DD is sick here I never contact him saying can you collect her I don't want the rest of my household getting sick I take precautions to avoid the risk of it spreading to siblings and myself