AIBU to ask for her number or is it weird?

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I get really on with DS old teacher, he’s now in Y2. She used to teach him in Y1, she now teaches the class next to DDs class, so every time I go pick her up we always have a chat. She’s now 6 months pregnant and will be going on mat leave soon.

AIBU to ask for her number so we can keep in contact and hopefully see her once she had the baby? Would love to be friends. Has anyone here become friends with the children’s old teachers?

Why not write her a good luck card and put your contact details in there saying if she'd like to chat /have coffee /vent etc to give you a shout . So you are giving her the option should she wish it ?

I would give her your number and ask for a baby pic when it's born. Then take it from there.

Write her a card - good idea from 666.

i'm not sure if it's different for teachers as we aren't at that stage yet but i've had a couple of nursery ladies send me facebook friend requests which is nice and low commitment and i've happily accepted.

I'm a teacher and we really wouldn't be allowed to become friendly with a parent like this I'm afraid. I know she doesn't teach your child anymore but she may again in the future and it can make things very awkward hence why such connections would be discouraged.

When I was young my parents became such good friends with my teacher (who had also taught my two brothers) that we used to go on family holidays together! Her daughter babysat for me and everyone has stayed in touch since. Go for it, send her a card with your number and say how nice it would be to stay in touch.

Bloody hell, my mum is BFF’s with my English teacher and has been since she taught me 19 years ago, and my mum once set her up to go on a date with my dad too (parents split up when I was three).

I'm sorry OP but in professional terms this is a big no. People talk about friendships with teachers from years ago - fair enough but times have changed and it would be seriously frowned upon now.
Just wish her well and leave it at that.

Unfortunately things are different these days and schools have codes of conduct for staff which usually specify rules around relationships with parents- the one at my school certainly does. It would be considered unprofessional at least. Your school may be the exception but it really wouldn't be considered best practice at all. Just don't take it personally if she cannot do this is all I'm saying- it won't be anything to do with you! I've had to politely decline friend requests etc on Facebook with parents and an invitation to dinner as a thank you etc. Sadly, there are so many rules and regulations around everything. Schools are really unrecognisable these days in comparison to when I went and it's not a good thing in my opinion and one of the reasons staff are leaving in their droves.

Pretty sure you cant strike up a friendship with teacher in the school that your child currently attends

I think it’s a no. Staff in our school are discouraged from forming relationships with parents. I think many schools are like this.
It’s to do with conflict of interest. Your potential teacher friend wouldn’t be able to discuss anything at all about school and , similarly, won’t be able to answer most of your questions.

I think it's a no. However I'd maybe give her a card to say good luck. I wouldn't put contact details in though, might be a bit awkward.

In our village-y type school there are lots of teachers who live locally, their kids also go to the school and inevitably went to nursery with kids now also at school so existing friendships seem to be allowed between parents and teachers but obviously with the teachers adhering to school guidelines around confidentiality.
I don’t imagine new friendships would be encouraged however