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AIBU to be ridiculously proud of myself but have no one to brag to?

44 replies

SisyphusHadItEasy · 06/01/2020 15:40

So, this past year has been the culmination of a pile of negatives and positives, but I needed to continue working on the negatives.

So, in the last month, I have finally gotten my driving license (lost it many years ago after a spinal cord injury), stopped drinking (I was polishing off 2L of cider or sometimes more a night - please know I quit drinking the day before my driving test and have not touched a drop since), completed my penultimate semester in my engineering program with a 4.0 GPA and successfully started a new eating plan that has begun to show results.

While the driving and academic pursuits are something I can share, I am ashamed to admit how much I weighed at the outset of this journey, and no one knew how much I was drinking.

AIBU to feel ashamed that I created the situation that led to me being unable to share my successes now, but kind of look forward to the future when I can share it?

I know I can do this - I kicked an addiction to hydromorphone that started during my injury rehab, and haven't touched anything stronger than paracetamol since.

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Joker123 · 06/01/2020 15:43

That’s awesome! Well done! Onwards & upwards x

Angie6868 · 06/01/2020 15:44

You're doing amazingly well. Maybe you don't need to share all of your achievements. You know what they are and you're the most important person.

MissingLinker · 06/01/2020 15:47

Op, it sounds like you're doing brilliantly with what you've achieved. Doesn't matter what the situation from which the problems started was down to you or not, that you're willing to work your way out of it is more than can be said for many and you absolutely should be proud of yourself.

SisyphusHadItEasy · 06/01/2020 15:54

Thank you so much.

I guess my guilt is the thing weighing me down - that, and the fact that I kept the drinking well hidden. Frankly, that was probably a big part of the problem.

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christmasathome · 06/01/2020 15:54

Well done op, you should be so very proud of all you have achieved

DragonUdders · 06/01/2020 15:57

Well done! You've overcome a lot. Flowers

palomapear · 06/01/2020 15:59

That's fantastic!
Sounds like it would make a good book!

SisyphusHadItEasy · 06/01/2020 16:25

Sounds like it would make a good book!

Oh, if only you knew. My life has been so "all over the map" that to put it on paper and call it non-fiction would have people who don't know me questioning its truth 🤣

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rm1234 · 06/01/2020 16:28

Well done in over coming your challenges. Keep on going upwards! 😘

TrickyD · 06/01/2020 17:21

Well done on achieving just one of those goals, driving, no drinking and studying, never mind three. You will get there on the eating/weight situation.

HollowTalk · 06/01/2020 17:23

Congratulations! How much do you think drinking added to your weight problems?

joyfullittlehippo · 06/01/2020 17:23

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SisyphusHadItEasy · 06/01/2020 18:00

How much do you think drinking added to your weight problems?

I guess we will find out. I suspect it has been a significant contributor, but definitely not the only one.

I have been scale obsessed in the past, so am avoiding the scales for a while. The other thing I am interested in is seeing how my study habits change this semester when I am not drinking myself to sleep every night.

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HollowTalk · 06/01/2020 18:46

Hopefully you'll find the weight drops off - apparently there are 880 calories in 2 litres of cider, so just stopping that will help enormously.

InterstellarDrifter · 06/01/2020 18:52

Well done! Love reading stuff like this. It’s so inspiring Smile

andthentherewasme · 06/01/2020 18:56

Brilliant! Those are all tremendous accomplishments. I'm sorry you don't many people to share that kind of thing with and I hope that changes for you. You're on the up. Rooting for you!

tentonnetessyagain · 06/01/2020 19:01

Well done, I have issues with Alcohol and weigh 20 stone, I decided yesterday that I was changing things. I hope to be in your shoes soon and will also come here to brag, way to ashamed to admit to things in real life.

DisasterMagnet · 06/01/2020 19:03

Well done. I’m really proud of you ❤️❤️❤️

Bellevu · 06/01/2020 19:18

Brag to us!

Well done

LadyAllegraImelda · 06/01/2020 19:22

Congratulations! That is so inspiring!
Flowers

SirChing · 06/01/2020 19:29

Wow OP you sound amazing! You have achieved so much. Obviously feel free to ignore this, but I am wondering why you feel guilty? You have done stuff and decided you don't want that any more and changed it. That's fabulous. I hope 2020 is amazing for you Flowers

SisyphusHadItEasy · 06/01/2020 22:49

SirChing I think the guilt is primarily because I allowed it to happen, and that I have been so secretive about it.

Tessy - we can support each other. This is still early for me, we can start together. I am about 18.5 stone myself - and since I am 5'9", and not 8 feet tall - this is far too much.

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Goodgollymiss · 06/01/2020 23:10

New year new you op..... very well done Flowers

SomethingPhishy · 06/01/2020 23:15

I admire you, well done! You should feel only proud of yourself for making positive changes. All the very best for 2020 & beyond.

Craftycorvid · 06/01/2020 23:21

Wow! You earn bragging rights for ever. I’m glad you’re able to feel justly proud of yourself.