Anyone else on venlafaxine or venlalic? *trigger rape*

[NewYoiker]

Fuck me it's making me so tired during the day but wide awake during the night! Anyone else on this medication?

I tried to kill myself in November and my poor DH was beyond upset by that but we're moving forward. I'm being treated by the priory and I have direct access to my psychiatrist. My husbands work is paying for my mental health treatment which is fucking amazing and totally unexpected.

I know this is also very pathetic but I really like sex and it makes me feel closer to my DH but I can't orgasm on these bloody tablets!! I know it's a small price to pay with regards to not being dead or wanting to kill my self but it's so hard to have sex and know I won't orgasm I'm getting put off the whole idea which is fine with DH but not with me. We haven't had sex in 2 months and I'm so sad about that. I'm starting psychotherapy and emdr(?) on Tuesday

because I was raped when I was 15 and now the police are interested in proceeding with a conviction. I reported him years ago but I was told even though I was 15 at the time there was very little point in Pursuing a conviction but now 6 other women have also reported him for rape. North wales police have now got in touch again and asked for a video statement because it was statutory rape and they can use my statement to send him to prison for a long time.

I told my mum when the police got In touch because I'd told no one to that point and I'm 30 now.. I mean I told her at the time that I had been attacked and she drove like a bat out of hell to come and get me but I didn't tell her I was raped at knifepoint. I've told her now but it's hard..

Anyway!! Has anyone had any experience of the priory, venlafaxine or emdr? Please help x

That's horrific, DidItWork. Why can't the medics help him come off it?

Yeah I need to stay on them
For at least 18 months as they'll hopefully help a bit with my therapy

@DidItWorkForYou - slight derail, but if your husband is taking the slow release version, the easiest way to withdraw is to make up a chart and take 5 grains out of the capsule, for a week, then 10, then 15, and so on. It's a bitch to come off, and this is the only way. I have a more detailed plan with other aspects, PM if useful.

Sorry OP!

That's what he's been doing. But he feels like he can't go any lower as the symptoms intensify so much :(

Definitely worth trying other med options. I've tried loads and tbh the side effects from most were annoying in some way, haven't had trouble climaxing tho. For me, citalopram was the worst, made me manic and twitchy but I'm hyperactive to begin with lol. Prozac has had the least side effects, just crazy vivid dreams which is actually pretty fun lol.
Agree with someone else, steer clear of mirtazipine, awful stuff, and if you tell your psychiatrist that you're having trouble sleeping he may want to try it - run.

I've been taking venlafaxine for 7 years. The side effects do ease. I still have trouble climaxing, but I can orgasm now. It just takes time!

I still have yawning attacks and it makes me really constipated, so I take movicol for that.

Tbh I've never found mh professionals that sympathetic to side effects. They seem to be of the opinion that side effects are worth it for the overall benefit. But being chronically constipated for years, not being able to orgasm, these do seriously impact on you.

OP, not experience of the meds and I know that orgasms are important to many, but you can you take the focus off that and enjoy being in the moment?

Not the same I know, but why let this ruin that feeling of closeness if you really enjoy it?

Can you orgasm if you masturbate?

NewYoiker Tue 07-Jan-20 02:50:58
Yeah I need to stay on them
For at least 18 months as they'll hopefully help a bit with my therapy
.........
That's what the medics tell you but you have to 'listen' to your own body. Even doctors say that patients must take some responsibility for their own health. What suits one does not suit another.

I'm so worried about Sunday. I've been talking to a female police officer about the rape and grooming that he did to me. But now I'm going to interviewed by a man. I'm
So worried that I won't be able to open up because I need to go into detail and it's just so shit. There are 4 other victims who have made complaints but because I was 25 and he used a knife it's aggravated and statutory rape as well as rape.

I have had to identify my shoes from
13 years ago. As he still had them after I ran out his house without them. I missed those shoes so much which sounds pathetic but I was 15 and they were superman converse. I've also googled him
And he's is a fucking MP! I really want to pull out of this interview.

Anyone?

If he is an MP he must be in contact with many vulnerable women :(

It's your choice. You need to do what is right for you.
It's easy for me to sit here and say 'help get this bastard lock up!' from the comfort of behind a screen.

It's important to take care of yourself and your own mental health.

Can you ask for a female chaperone at the interview?
I'm sure the male officer is well trained in this.

Maybe you could try and if it all gets too much ask to stop?
Or email them beforehand to say how nervous you are.

I'm so sorry you are going through this.

Whatever you decide you are an incredibly brave and courageous woman.