To be annoyed at being woken

[JulietteLeGall]

DH worked today, he very rarely works a Sunday. I'm still on Christmas hols and go back on Tuesday. His alarm went off at 7.30. Lots of kisses and cuddles even though I made clear I didn't want to be disturbed. He got DC to bring him coffee and toast in bed. Light on, slurping and munching. Chats with DC. Leaves for work at 8.15, I'm wide awake. He thinks I was BU for being shirty with him, was I?

YABU, you told him you didn’t want to be disturbed so he should’ve just got up and gone and had his breakfast in the kitchen. If it was me, I would’ve definitely been cranky.

Sorry I meant YANBU!

Is he normally an arse or is this out of character?

YANBU. He was inconsiderate

Definitely YANBU! What a selfish thing to do. I’d say it was deliberate tbh- he didn’t like the idea of you enjoying a lie in while he had to go to work.

It’s not exactly early though is it?

YANBU. He was purely thinking of himself. Actually he was almost making a point, wasn’t he?

@OverByYer It’s a matter of respect, regardless of what the time was OP asked her husband not to disturb her and he did the most possible to bother her. Plus not like it was 10am either was it??

YANBU I guess but it's not very early and there would be worse problems than to be woken with kisses and cuddles 😂

YANBU. I’ve had to get up early as I’ve worked everyday since kids broke up apart from Xmas and Boxing Day. DH has loads layins/days off not bothering to feed DCs (who can feed themselves with cold food but surely if he’s cooking he can cook for them). Tomorrow he’s back to work but setting his alarm for 5am so he can go to the gym. I am working but don’t have to be at work until 8.30am. I know I will be tired all day and cross

@OverByYer

Er - yes, Id say 7:30 on a Sunday was pretty early for most people!

OP asked not to be disturbed and her oh did everything possible to disturb her except get a brass band in!
But hey it's ok cos her oh gave her a kiss and cuddle so she should be grateful!!

What he should have done was be considerate and get up.and leave the bedroom.as quietly as possible and eat downstairs. It's not rocket science. What he did was thoroughly selfish and a bit p.a. tbh.

I would be explaining very slowly what do not disturb actually means op and ask him.if he was deliberately being a selfish arse or is he just thick?

Not very considerate of him is it. But rare moments of contentment with simple bare experiences are so enjoyable. I understand you didn’t want to be disturbed but getting up, kisses and cuddles, breakfast in bed surrounded by people tho love most is a wonder thing.

I'd say it was pretty early for a Sunday?

I get that windy but so is a couple hours of undisturbed sleep

YANBU.
My DH gets up at 6 some mornings and 5 on three mornings a week and always creeps out the room, even has his shower the night before and leaves his work clothes/deodorant/toothbrush downstairs so he doesn’t disturb me. I’d be even crosser if DC we’re still at home and he disturbed them, as then my morning would be hectic

But rare moments of contentment with simple bare experiences are so enjoyable.

Like a lovely lie in on holidays?

When is the next time you have to get up that he wants to sleep? I would be treating him exactly the same way to make a point.

I understand you didn’t want to be disturbed but getting up, kisses and cuddles, breakfast in bed surrounded by people tho love most is a wonder thing.

It isn’t wonderful if you don’t want it.

For the toast in bed alone he was BU

Did he want to fuck up your morning because he had to go to work? I'd be furious and would be saving this up for his next day off/lie in.

You know what to do on his next day off...the punishment needs to fit the crime!!

Did you not need to be awake for the children anyway? Or are they older

I be slightly annoyed but I would be asking for my tea and toast.

Kids are older. No need for me to be served my tea and toast until at least 9.30