To allow my DD13 watch Love Island?

[ChoccieEClaire]

My DD is 13 and in year 8.
She has asked me for the last few years if she can watch Love Island.
I've always said no but now I'm wondering if she's old enough.
I've not really watched it and think it's all rubbish but I'm wondering if that's clouding my judgement of if it's suitable for her to watch.
We have had discussions about the type of people that are on it, how it's not a representation of true life and relationships and how everyone is just fame hungry. She seems to get it.
Can anyone advise me on what they think based on if they watch it or if they allow their teens to watch it?

It’s not the sex and language that would stop me letting a 13 year old watch it as I’m sure they hear worse at school.

It’s the way it shows relationships, some of which have been really toxic, including controlling behaviour, gaslighting etc. I wouldn’t want a teenager to think they have to accept such behaviour from a partner.

My 2 x DS have watched it since they were 11 and 12. They think it’s funny, ridiculous and know it’s not the way to conduct a relationship or behave respectfully

My 13 year old watched it last year, we don't talk lots, she keeps alot to herself and quite often I've no idea what she's thinking. However, we bonded over Love Island. It gave us something to talk about that allowed us to touch on relationships and what was good/bad in a way that wasn't me against her/ me criticising her decisions.
I think if you watch it with her, talk about it comment on the good and bad behaviour it can be suitable.
I'm really excited it starts in a week, the last 2 weeks with my daughter off school she's finally started chatting more and letting her guard down. I see it as perfect timing for us to continue building on that

I wouldnt allow it. Its horribly shallow and disrespectful.

I don't think it's fair to make a judgement on it just because people personally might think it's not great TV.
I do think it would be a good opportunity to discuss certain situations.. For example, if someone is being disrespectful, you can discuss this and let your daughter know that's not how she should be treated in a relationship etc. It's a good chance to discuss rights and wrongs and the relationships between people.
There's no nudity anymore which is a plus. Swearing does happen but I guess she's already heard all of that at school by now.
I personally think maybe you should watch some of the last series yourself and see from your own point of view x

I would. It is trashy but the last series opened up a lot of debate on gas lighting and controlling behaviour. It also had strong women in who I really wouldn’t mind if they were role models for my daughter (Maura took no shit when men said she should walk the walk if she talked the talk - a woman truly comfortable with sex and her sexuality and not one to be bullied in to shutting up about it or in to putting out if she didn’t want to). I think a great way to open discussions about relationships and friendships and what she wants in those.

I asked this exact question last year and put it out on my fb. The answers were mixed but mainly were negative.

My teen watches it, I don’t. I think it’s awful, she thinks it’s hilarious. But she’s brought up with morals and respect for herself so I don’t think it’s worrying. Of course I think her time could be better spent but she’s a teenager, if she doesn’t watch that it’ll be some other shite.

My DD and I watched the series in the summer together, she had just turned 13. We'll be watching again I'm sure - it's funny and it's a great opportunity to discuss relationships, body image, expectations of women etc etc without coming across as a bit preachy. My DD loved Maura because she didn't take any crap from the men and that's fine with me.

Nobody should watch that bilge
Please don't encourage them!!