To unfriend friend on social media?

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I have a group of friends who aren't best friends but I felt were goodish mates via kids school over last few years. We all get on or so I thought when we do see each other but I've been getting the impression that I'm the odd one out and not invited to dinners etc. Which is fine - I don't expect to be invited to everything. But I noticed recently that there was a group gathering which people posted about online. It upset me. I feel left out and miserable. I don't drink and I get social anxiety and the whole thing felt about a million times worse after seeing this. Most of them knew about difficult circumstances last year too which made me feel sad that no one thought I would like to come. Anyway I have kind of accepted that these people don't see me as their tribe but was I U to unfriend on social media? I feel like I just don't want to see what people are up to when I'm clearly not welcome/wanted.

Unfriendimg could lead to confrontation if they realise why not unfollow instead?

@Figgygal that's what I mean unfollow... sorry! Same thing.

How can it possibly be unreasonable to unfollow?

I’d unfollow immediately.
Social media is supposed to enhance your life, not make it worse.

That's what I thought but now I'm worrying about their feelings and school gates awkwardness etc. Classic me - people pleaser.

Id unfollow, they wont know that you've done that so there shouldnt be any awkwardness arising from it.

Do you still see them? If not, I’d unfriend. If so, just unfollow.

If you ‘unfollow’ them on Facebook then they won’t know you have done so which means no awkwardness in that sense .
If you ‘unfriend’ them on Facebook they’ll know if they try to look at your profile /contact you .
If it’s Twitter then I assume they’ll know you’ve unfollowed them but I came off Twitter years ago as it’s awful so not 100% sure

As common as social anxiety seems to be nowadays, do you think that might be the reason they're not inviting you to these things?

As far as I'm aware, they can't tell you've unfollowed them anyway.

The problem is if you unfollow them you can always look them up again to see what they've been doing. I'd unfriend if you don't see them or better still just come off Facebook.

Unfollow - they won’t know. You’re still in their friend list so they are nothing changed.

If you’re talking about Instagram I think you can mute which is much the same thing?

I'm fairly sure they will know.

@WorraLiberty I'm sure you're right. No idea what to do about it though.

Unfollow on FB = mute on Twitter
Unfriend on FB = unfollow on Twitter

More or less. But honestly, do what you want. If people notice and/or care about who is following them on social media, they really need to get a life.

I don't think you understand that unfollow (instead of the unfriend button) just means their posts won't pop up on your feed. Your 'friends' won't know.

The only way they might know you unfollowed them is if you currently comment on and like their posts a lot, then suddenly stop because you no longer see their posts.