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To think there should have been something more I could have done?

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amehh · 05/01/2020 15:14

So I've just been shopping and I was walking slowly behind an elderly lady. I looked up to see if DHs car was outside to pick me up and in that split second my trolley caught the ladys ankle and she fell (very slowly) to the ground. Her foot was under the trolley, which I lifted off. When I say this was very slow, I didn't feel an impact or jolt to the trolley, it gently stopped moving and I saw the lady in front was close to the front of the trolley and then she was going towards the ground.

I apologised several times and offered to get a first aider which the lady declined and then a member of the public said "I'll do it, don't bother" and another got a chair. I felt I couldn't physically help the lady up as 1) I didn't want to cause any further injury and 2) my 2 month old was in my trolley and I didn't want to leave her unattended either. The lady's husband was understandably annoyed and he said "well this is a big problem, she has osteoarthritis you know" and I apologised again.

I saw DH and got him to get DD in the car while I went back and by this time the first aider had come and the lady had walked inside the shop. I caught up to them and asked the member of staff what else I could do and if I needed to leave my name or number etc and she said not to worry and they would sort everything out.

I honestly can't stop thinking about it and that I should have done something else, that everyone was expecting me to do more but I didn't know what more to do. I'm really concerned that I've seriously hurt the lady and that, with the fragility of elderly people, may have done some damage or possibly even caused a fatal clot or something (thank you Google).

Should I have done more?

OP posts:
cansu · 05/01/2020 16:45

FGS It is very easily done. Some people on this thread are being totally OTT. OP it was an accident. Maybe she stopped suddenly. Last time I looked we didn't need insurance for pushing a trolley to the car! You apologised and made sure she had someone to help her. There was nothing else you could have done and I think you need to stop worrying about it.

Rosebel · 05/01/2020 16:59

Please don't worry. Her husband was worried and upset but probably didn't mean to take it out on you.
My gran had several falls and never hurt herself as her reactions were slow so she didn't tense like a younger person would. So hopefully it'll be the same for her and good she was walking afterwards.
Accidents happen and while you can call the store I'm not sure they'd pass her details on, even if she bothered to leave them. Obviously I don't know this woman but a lot of older people would probably be horrified to think you're still worrying about something that was obviously an accident.

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